It's my face - isn't it?

[Spitfire]

Ladies (especially) and gents.
I have a question. Something has puzzled me during the last week.
How come your face becomes public property, the moment you start growing a beard or moustache?
The moment it's there it's like everybody is free to tell you what they think about it. (Especially my sweet wife... )

Unless I can make a positive remark, I do not comment on other peoples hairstyle or dresses.
But with a moustache it's different...everybody is free to make jokes, negative comments - and positive.
I thought it was my face. Obviously it's not.

 

[avedwards]

It's not your face, it's the fact that you have the guts to be a non-conformist that people start ridiculing you. Before I used to wear a hat and other obvious vintage inspired clothing, I never received a single comment. As soon as I started hat wearing I started getting the comments (though more good ones as well as dumb ones). Why? Because I stopped conforming.

 

[cherry lips]

Spitfire, I'm certainly guilty of commenting on my friend's beards! To me it's the equivalent of a new haircut (it is hair after all!), so it feels natural to say something. I didn't regard it as a sensitive topic (although I'd never say anything negative, ofcourse). Now I know better thanks to you

 

[Spitfire]

I do not see myself as touchy but just to give you all a few examples:

- "Planning to join the policeforce/army/airforce?"
- "Got a cold?"
- "Hey, what's that under your nose?"
- "Are we going to Stuttgart with that?"
- "That was smart in the 60's!"
- "Trying to look younger?"
- "You look at lot older!!!"

But also:

- "Cool"
- "It suits you"
- "Wish I could do that - but my wife wont let me..."

[huh]

 

[HarpPlayerGene]

Oh that's your mustache?! I thought you'd just had anchovies for lunch.

JUST KIDDING!!

Couldn't help myself.

Off I go to sit in the corner.

 

[Carlisle Blues]

Spitfire I grew a beard for the first time in my life this winter. I shaved it off last week and asked someone their opinion.

I was very surprised by their answer.

I am growing it back. It goes with my earring gives me an edgier look. I liked it to begin with, but, do not know why I shaved it. [huh] [huh]

As far as knuckle headed remarks: they come and go like the tide. [huh]

Saturday I went out to dinner and went to a show. The waitress was telling me how she would like me to take her out as I looked like a man from the "Cotton Club" she wrote her tel number on the
bill. lol lol I am not going to cry about that.

So the my attitude is: Take what comments you want and leave the rest behind.

 

[Baron Kurtz]

These are comments from people you don't know?

Certainly in the UK, this would be the reaction (from people who do know you) to any change of appearance . Nothing is meant by it, just lighthearted ribbing.

Personally, i hate shaving. I find it painful and a chore. I don't think clean shaven looks better than facial hair. But the wife hates kissing me when i have a beard - apparently it hurts. I agree with her. When saying goodbye to friends and going through the kiss on the cheek ritual, stubble is a bit painful.

bk

 

[Creeping Past]

The issue of prickliness can be overcome by growing the beard and m[o]ustache longer. It softer and much more pleasant for both parties.

 

[Baron Kurtz]

Or those wonderful silky beards of men who have never been shaven, so the ends of the hairs are pointed. Amazing feel.

bk

 

[Geesie]

Ladies (especially) and gents.
I have a question. Something has puzzled me during the last week.
How come your face becomes public property, the moment you start growing a beard or moustache?
The moment it's there it's like everybody is free to tell you what they think about it. (Especially my sweet wife... )

Unless I can make a positive remark, I do not comment on other peoples hairstyle or dresses.
But with a moustache it's different...everybody is free to make jokes, negative comments - and positive.
I thought it was my face. Obviously it's not.

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but your face is indeed your wife's property.

 

[Lefty]

Just wait until your beard is long and everyone thinks they've got the right to touch it.

 

[Marc Chevalier]

- "Wish I could do that - but my wife wont let me..."

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but your face is indeed your wife's property.

lol See: http://www.thefedoralounge.com/showthread.php?t=39933


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[zetwal]

Among friends it's the always forceful question of social norms coupled with the striking change in your once familiar appearance. Once you have worn a beard or mustache for a good period of time friends will comment when you remove or alter it.

Among strangers, it's just a question of social norms.

The status of you face (as yours or communal property) has always been and remains both.

 

[scottyrocks]

Among friends it's the always forceful question of social norms coupled with the striking change in your once familiar appearance. Once you have worn a beard or mustache for a good period of time friends will comment when you remove or alter it.

I was thinking about that very idea as I was reading through the thread.

Last year, when I shaved off my 20+ year moustache and goatee/sometimes beard, no one said anything, even if they noticed. When I asked my wife about it, she said it had been a part of me for so long, she hadnt noticed. I thought that was a little backwards, but hey.

 

[Wil Tam]

I was thinking about that very idea as I was reading through the thread.

Last year, when I shaved off my 20+ year moustache and goatee/sometimes beard, no one said anything, even if they noticed. When I asked my wife about it, she said it had been a part of me for so long, she hadnt noticed. I thought that was a little backwards, but hey.

wow no one noticed! most guys look really different with & without facial hair, that if one shaves it all off, it would be difficult to recognize the person unless you know & seen him without it before [huh]

for me it's laziness & it grows in slow... so I don't get comments because if it starts to look a little scraggly I just get rid of it and the process starts all over again....

 

[cherry lips]

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but your face is indeed your wife's property.

lol :eusa_clap

 

[Spitfire]

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but your face is indeed your wife's property.

And vice versa????

 

[Marc Chevalier]

And vice versa????

Yes, but not her face per se ...

.

 

[Maj.Nick Danger]

It works both ways. I had a mustache in various forms for a long, long time. Got tired of trimming around it and all a few months ago, and just shaved the whole thing away.
People did notice, but I simply replied,..."What mustache??"
My life is easier now,...

 

[Spitfire]

I have often wondered about, how women would take it, if their friends, lovers and husbands suddenly began commenting and ordering them to change their looks.
- Stop dying your hair, it looks stupid!
- Why don't you use another lipstick, I am tired of that color.
- Stop using so much makeup.Makes you look older.
- Use more makeup! You do look old.
- Do you have to wear those earrings?
- Get a haircut.
- Grow your hair longer....whatever.

Yep, I know..... "It's only good sound advice, and it all depends on how you say it!" I don't think so! It's interferring in another persons life!