Etienne
A-List Customer
- Messages
- 473
- Location
- Northern California
Gosh, I would call THAT "intimacy" of high order!!
Etienne said:I'm a bit confused about this statement...If intimacy and relationship are the wrong reasons, what are the "right reasons"?
Etienne said:Gosh, I would call THAT "intimacy" of high order!!
Marc Chevalier said:Well, if it weren't really fun, we would have given up on it long ago. Actually, recent studies indicate that more and more of us do.
.
carebear said:Intimacy and relationship aren't the wrong reasons. Sleeping with lots of guys in the false hope that by giving out sex you will get intimacy and a relationship is the wrong reason.
carebear said:Because in a relationship it can be so much more than just friction and dopamine release.
carebear said:Sex simply for pleasure's sake, like any solitary hobby (solitary in that the other person is effectively an object), can get old.
Marc Chevalier said:Right. Conversely, some women sleep with lots of guys in the hope of having a lot of fun. It's more likely that their hope will come true.
.
carebear said:Depends on the guys...
reetpleat said:I just don't understand that at all. You are saying you don't want to date because it might end? Do you refuse to get a job because you might get fired?
Marc Chevalier said:Yup. Hopefully, after some practice, she'll get to know who and what she digs.
.
Paisley said:A friend of mine--nearly 40 years old an no prude--has become really disenchanted with the looking-for-a-good-time approach. She's normally a cheerful, lovely person, then gets involved with some guy, and ends up feeling lousy about herself.
Paisley said:Most of her friends are single.
Rosie said:I don't think it was her. I would be a bit offended if my date inferred I was jealous of a compliment someone paid him. I mean really.
Steve said:Not at all. I have simply observed that most dating relationships end with a hard break-up. In my opinion, if one is truly searching for Mr./Mrs. Right, the relationship should be something more than just "dating" in the casual sense where one moves from person to person; it should be viewed as something to take slowly and seriously.
Etienne said:I'm a bit confused about this statement...If intimacy and relationship are the wrong reasons, what are the "right reasons"?
carebear said:That's not what he's saying.
Intimacy and relationship aren't the wrong reasons. Sleeping with lots of guys in the false hope that by giving out sex you will get intimacy and a relationship is the wrong reason.
People, especially young people and unfortunately especially young girls, want real love and companionship, but putting out on the first date is not the way to get that, as their peer boys are typically hormone monsters who just want the sex and older guys tend to know what the girls want and consciously prey upon those needs.
The girls get all the emotional and physical risks of sex but don't get the good, meaningful stuff they're seeking in return.