Well i've seen plenty of arguments criticizing dating, and had long debates on the topic of prostitution and i always get the whole "whats the difference, you're paying for sex in both cases" retort. I used to argue against this but i believe the "dating game" has changed to the point where it essentially has boiled down to this, its totally detatched from any emotional value, its purely physical and animalistic and there is no real consideration anymore. Now naturally, that isn't how it is everywhere but its essentially all i've encountered (and that's NYC so i'm not expecting it to be like Middle america.. i sure it isn't) but even people arguing that i'm a pessimist generally conceed with me on that. That its the same as prostitution i'm not sure, but when it comes down to just a physical act and a point where one night stands are not seen as a low thing, well, where does one really draw the line?
And to totally blame parents is unfair,- parents have limited control, as was said, due to technology, but also TV, schools,etc. I just can point to any stack of magazines at a magazine stand and you will see every single magazine has at least three articles about "the best sex you'll ever have" or "10 things he wants in bed" etc. Such open displays like this of lewd material would have been unheard of in any other era. And as for "bad language" and rudeness, if i picked up any of this it was at school. I learned virtually anything i "shouldn"t have known via TV or peers. My generation didn't get the internet until we were already almost teens or teens (it didn't really become common place for folks our age to use AOL and all that until 2000..2001 or so), so i can't say the internet played a big part, but i can't imagine the impact it had on the people who started after me is incalculable.All said, my parents did their best to raise me right and I think they did an ok job, but not to be self congratulatory, i was a big part in that. The fact was, if i had wanted to behave differently, picking up bad habits and poor behavior, i could have done so easily, and they wouldn't have had any idea about it. I chose not to because it doesn't appeal to me. Perhaps they instilled that into me, but i've seen how most people i used to know in grade school, and its in many cases not the fault of the parents at all.
And ben- touche on the marcus aurelius quote. I just finished meditations and was thoroughly impressed by it. But we can't all be Marcus Aurelius. I agree that technology and social changes is a reason, but I don't think it is something that will settle or ease its way into a new system that way.
alright that's definitely more than enough, excuse the length here.
And to totally blame parents is unfair,- parents have limited control, as was said, due to technology, but also TV, schools,etc. I just can point to any stack of magazines at a magazine stand and you will see every single magazine has at least three articles about "the best sex you'll ever have" or "10 things he wants in bed" etc. Such open displays like this of lewd material would have been unheard of in any other era. And as for "bad language" and rudeness, if i picked up any of this it was at school. I learned virtually anything i "shouldn"t have known via TV or peers. My generation didn't get the internet until we were already almost teens or teens (it didn't really become common place for folks our age to use AOL and all that until 2000..2001 or so), so i can't say the internet played a big part, but i can't imagine the impact it had on the people who started after me is incalculable.All said, my parents did their best to raise me right and I think they did an ok job, but not to be self congratulatory, i was a big part in that. The fact was, if i had wanted to behave differently, picking up bad habits and poor behavior, i could have done so easily, and they wouldn't have had any idea about it. I chose not to because it doesn't appeal to me. Perhaps they instilled that into me, but i've seen how most people i used to know in grade school, and its in many cases not the fault of the parents at all.
And ben- touche on the marcus aurelius quote. I just finished meditations and was thoroughly impressed by it. But we can't all be Marcus Aurelius. I agree that technology and social changes is a reason, but I don't think it is something that will settle or ease its way into a new system that way.
alright that's definitely more than enough, excuse the length here.