I don't know if this belongs here but,

[nosferaturoams]

my boyfriend plans to leave for Nebraska sometime late july. Since I don't want to move just yet, and don't see myself with anybody else a long-distance relationship seems to be it. How many of you are in a long distance relationship and does it work for you? Do you plan to move in with them eventually?
Thanks for answering

 

[Tatum]

Nosferaturoams, I can't speak for your particular situation, but hubby and I did it twice (once before we were married and once after) for six month periods, and we were fine. We also did a two year stretch when I went back to school two hours away, got my own place and we only saw each other on weekends.

If you think you can both handle it, and it is what you both want, I don't see why not. It isn't easy, but it has its benefits. It helped me a lot when it was the school thing, as I could come home at night and I didn't have the distraction from homework.

 

[nosferaturoams]

That sounds great !
I forgot to mention though, we currently live in california so, uh, once a week isn't exactly pocket friendly

 

[Tomasso]

Never worked for me. Just sayin'

 

[Tatum]

That sounds great !
I forgot to mention though, we currently live in california so, uh, once a week isn't exactly pocket friendly

Yeah, but there was the six month one before we were married that was the full six months. I was in Colorado and he was here, in Florida. The second one, I had to take care of my grandmother in Kentucky and I managed to get home for a week every four or so. That was the hardest by far, we were both under a lot of stress. That was two years ago.

But Tomasso has a point. I know we were lucky.

 

[scooter]

My beloved and I were a continent apart for a year before we moved in together. Saw each other once every other month or so. I take the approach that if he's the right one, it'll be fine. If not, better to know now. It CAN work.

 

[rue]

Never worked for me. Just sayin'

You're just a ray of sunshine



If you have trust and are both totally committed to each other you can get through anything

 

[Tomasso]

You're just a ray of sunshine

Exactly!!! So how it failed, I do not know....[huh]

 

[rue]

Exactly!!! So how it failed, I do not know....[huh]

Maybe because you never answered her ... *ahem*....

 

[Tatum]

:rofl:

 

[Gene]

My one and only long-distance relationship ripped my heart out and jumped up and down on it until it was just a red stain on the pavement. NEVER AGAIN.

 

[nosferaturoams]

It'll be almost a whole year before I go. I begged him to stay but there's no way
Oooh that dreadful money issue makes so many problems. I think I'll be able to see him ,at most, twice! The things people do for love.

 

[nosferaturoams]

Ahhh now I'm considering just jumping the gun and tagging along ! How scary. Sorry to hear that Gene. So sorry

 

[scotrace]

Doesn't work.

 

[dhermann1]

I started a relationship a couple months ago with a gal who's 80 miles up the Hudson. She also works most weekends, so that complicates things. Luckily I have the commuter railroads here in New York, and she's at the end of the line on the train, and I can catch an express up there after work. So it winds up being about a three hour trip. I think that's about as much of a distance strain as I would want to deal with. My neighbor just met a woman online in HAWAII. Now that's a long distance relationship. He's talking about moving out there next year. I wish him luck.

 

[Pompidou]

I don't think it works, not for any extended period. Honestly, nobody is interesting enough to sustain a relationship on conversation alone when anyone local could offer a complete package. I tried it once. Didn't work.

 

[Tomasso]

Honestly, nobody is interesting enough to sustain a relationship on conversation alone .

My former in laws, Harding and Mary Wells Lawrence lived apart for most of their 35 years together. A weekend here, a weekend there; it worked for them. But it helps when you own an airline......

 

[AtomicEraTom]

I say never give up! It rarely works out, but that doesn't mean you can't beat the odds. I'm kinda seeing someone who lives across the country, but we're trying. You can't have a doubtful heart, or a doubtful mind.

 

[Miss Moonlight]

Personally I think that while it rarely works, that is no reason not to give your best and try. If it does work for you, it will have been worth any hardship. If it doesn't, you won't ever ask yourself 'what if?'

 

[The Good]

You know what, I would say go ahead and try to pursue your relationship, assuming that he is dear to you, and means much in your life. That is what love is composed of, a longing; a devotion.

I personally have my own rather twisted, pessimistic views regarding this sort of thing for myself (not you, just me), and for the sake of not being negative, I think I'll keep it to myself for now. In your case, you should try it if you believe in the relationship. I hope we can help you out here with your decision.