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Your Most Disturbing Realizations

GHT

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We keep a Christmas card address book. It's handy to refer to for friends who may have changed address. It's also handy as prompt.
How disturbing it is to realise just how many friends and family have died in the past ten years. Yet another downside to getting old.
Sorry if that sounds a tad maudlin.
 

philosophygirl78

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Aventura, Florida
We keep a Christmas card address book. It's handy to refer to for friends who may have changed address. It's also handy as prompt.
How disturbing it is to realise just how many friends and family have died in the past ten years. Yet another downside to getting old.
Sorry if that sounds a tad maudlin.

Its not just about getting old. I am approaching 40 and have lost not only friends and loved ones to the epidemic of cancer, (including most recently a 5 year old son of a lifelong friend), but victims of suicide from depression (seems to be a growing trend). I don't know why these things happen. Perhaps population, perhaps our environment, perhaps something we don't know... It is sad at any stage of life...
 
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Orange County, CA
We keep a Christmas card address book. It's handy to refer to for friends who may have changed address. It's also handy as prompt.
How disturbing it is to realise just how many friends and family have died in the past ten years. Yet another downside to getting old.
Sorry if that sounds a tad maudlin.

As my Dad got older the first thing he would do when looking at the newspaper was go to the obituary section to look for old friends.
 

LizzieMaine

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In the last year or so I've started doing this. It jars me to realize that all of the adults I knew around the neighborhood when I was growing up are either dead now or very elderly, and all but one of my elementary school teachers are gone. The lone survivor was in her twenties when I was in her class and is now pushing seventy.
 
In the last year or so I've started doing this. It jars me to realize that all of the adults I knew around the neighborhood when I was growing up are either dead now or very elderly, and all but one of my elementary school teachers are gone. The lone survivor was in her twenties when I was in her class and is now pushing seventy.


My first crush was on my third grade teacher, Miss Martin. What a doll. She was in her first year right out of school, and I must have been holy hell trying to impress her. Probably made her rethink wanting to be a teacher. So she was early 20s, I was about 9...I bet she's still all that and a bag of chips.
 

Inkstainedwretch

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When I was in high school, some of our teachers were only 6 or 7 years older than we were, but they seemed like godlike seniors. Now, 50 years later, we're all contemporaries. I recently attended my 50th year reunion and a couple of our teachers were there and they seemed like classmates.
 

2jakes

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My aunts, uncles, & cousins would get together at my grandmother’s house.
The house had a roofed long porch with lawn chairs & swings.

In the afternoons, I would go to the local bakery & get all kinds of sweet bread.
They would have coffee & conversation or would listen to the radio ball-games.

Jake & I would sit by the steps & enjoyed listening to them.

There are times in the evening that I think about them &
realize that they are all gone.

I also miss jake very much. :(
 

MisterCairo

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We keep a Christmas card address book. It's handy to refer to for friends who may have changed address. It's also handy as prompt.
How disturbing it is to realise just how many friends and family have died in the past ten years. Yet another downside to getting old.
Sorry if that sounds a tad maudlin.

If you've seen the movie "Amelie", there's a brief scene near the beginning that will immediately come to mind...
 

MisterCairo

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I was the first student ever enrolled at Dr. Charles Best Public School, a kindergarten to grade 5 school newly built for a brand new subdivision in Burlington, Ontario.

My parents were driving by and stopped in to look at the new building. It's first principal, Mr. Hughes, came running out to invite us in for a tour. "While you're here, why not enrol Sean in Kindergarten?", he asked.

That was in June, 1972.
 
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Germany
As far, as I know, medicine says, that on my younger generation up to 50% will get cancer, in near future. And like I see, on the now middle-aged people and younger, that's very probably.
-daily mobile-phoning?
-birth-control-pills?
-women and her permanently hair-colouring > the upcoming masses of brain-tumors??
-dusty bigger cities, inhale rubber-dust from traffic?
-Europe, the long-term-consequences of Tschernobyl on now middle-aged people?
-bad nutrition > daily white-flour-products, fat, covert alcoholism, massive sugar-consumtion
-upcoming daily drug-consumption as a normal thing, Crystal Meth, toking (german) youth since the 90's
and so on...
 

2jakes

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Actually more of a sad realization:

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I don’t take things for granted anymore.
I just appreciate the fact that I was there to know what it was like.

Elysian Fields
 
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2jakes

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^^^
I was conveying that I don’t see these things anymore,
but I appreciated them and the sad realization that they
are no longer in my backyard.

Of the why....
is the disturbing realization that I have
known for some time.
:)
 
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I'm happy, that I'm not living in one of the bigger german cities, with their traffic-rubber-dust, swirling unvisible through the streets. But, if you have something to do in such a city and then leave it, to get home, you just have to look at your eye-glasses. I realized it in 2014. They will be dusted and probably you will get headache, if you don't clean your glasses as soon as possible. I think, it's not just the dust from the ground. I think, it's mixed with the rubber from traffic.

I mean, Germany don't have got the air-pollution of the former industrial-age, especially GDR until 1990 (!) and the car-catalysators work of course. But, I will not inhale the dusty air on this cities, every day!
I prefer my outlying little-town, best thuringian-woods. Best air, you can get.
 

philosophygirl78

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Aventura, Florida
As far, as I know, medicine says, that on my younger generation up to 50% will get cancer, in near future. And like I see, on the now middle-aged people and younger, that's very probably.
-daily mobile-phoning?
-birth-control-pills?
-women and her permanently hair-colouring > the upcoming masses of brain-tumors??
-dusty bigger cities, inhale rubber-dust from traffic?
-Europe, the long-term-consequences of Tschernobyl on now middle-aged people?
-bad nutrition > daily white-flour-products, fat, covert alcoholism, massive sugar-consumtion
-upcoming daily drug-consumption as a normal thing, Crystal Meth, toking (german) youth since the 90's
and so on...

Processed Foods, Arsenic, Pesticides, Overdose of Fluoride... All of things you mentioned contribute, but what is being done to our food and water supply is the foundation for the epidemic. And not just cancer, autism as well. 1 in 42 children in the US has Autism Spectrum Disorder, with an increasing trend upwards every year. The only concrete association so far has been exposure to pesticides while a woman in pregnant. But if you look at Infant Formula as well, any Non Organic Formula's main and First ingredient is High Fructose Corn Syrup. So you have a new life that has been exposed to pesticide, chemicals, drugs during labor, and injected with refined sugar for the first year of life. How is that even LEGAL?

Talk about a lack of Ethics in the world...
 

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