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Miss Sis said:They didn't care AT ALL what they were wearing, or infact looking suitable for the occasion - Jeans at a WEDDING or FUNERAL, PYJAMAS to do your shopping??? etc, then it has all just gone to pot.
I have brought this up previously in other threads. The concept of casual and that parents will not enforce any rules of expectations as to dress or how to act on their children. (Don't want to be the bad guy! I want to be my kids best friend not their parent.)
About 6 years ago I went to a funeral / wake type of event. It was really hot that day and i wore a dress shirt or one with a collar, khakis dress shoes. (No tie or jacket as the heat was oppressive.) With just a couple of exceptions amongst the oldest of the mourners, I was the most dressed up person there. The adults were dressed like kids. Jeans or shorts, concert t-shirts and Big Gulps! One guy had to work immediately afterwards and had to come in his gas station uniform and looking back probably made the best effort. The teens were incapable of maintaining quiet and had no sense of mourning crowding up front to one side of the casket with lots of near hysterical giggling and tom foolery. None of the adults asked them to be quiet or told them to go outside.
If my brother or I had come dressed like that or acting like that my parents would have been mortified. A friend of mine told me something his mother had said when it comes to this lack of understanding. She said: "Poor people have poor ways." Poor may reflect not only a financial state but a distinct lack of knowledge as to decorum, and as such these people were truly poor.