LizzieMaine
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23SkidooWithYou said:For whatever reasons, I'm not sure young girls know it's okay to refuse to participate in certain behavior. Prime example...a couple of years ago at Thanksgiving, my young cousin's boyfriend was being very sulky, refusing to join our family in the house and sitting in his car where he needed to "talk" to Keri. She was actually running out with bowls of food, trying to eat and indulge him. Her parents loathed him (we all did, lol) so they didn't want to say anything and start WW3. I finally got ahold of her and said, "Keri...he's being really RUDE. Do you know our Pop once came to pick up Gram for a date, honked the horn for her to come down instead of coming in, and Gram was so insulted she sent her sister to say she's not the type to be honked at and she refused to see him that night????". Keri's eyes got like saucers and she said, "Really?". Yeah! Really!
I think it's great if somebody put into writing advice that will help today's young woman stand firm in herself and not be brought down by the frey. However, I think it's sort of sad that we need a book. Maybe our generation needs to have a few more heart-to-hearts than we do.
The most important lesson this generation can learn is that there's nothing demeaning or "prudish" about respect for yourself -- and insisting on receiving respect from others. If you don't respect yourself enough to stick up for yourself and to interact with the world on your own terms, how can you possibly expect anyone else to respect you? Every single piece of worthwhile advice I've ever gotten in my life boils down to that simple point.