Dating etiquette

[Lincsong]

Yuck factor??????? Hmmm I guess that must rule out kissing.

 

[Paisley]

One Date Wonders

I knew someone who had a cheap boyfriend. He always met her inside the dance hall---that had a cover charge of course. That lasted about a week.

A neighbor asked my friend to a dance and met her there. Little Boy didn't bring any money. That was their last date.

A guy in the building asked the same friend out for lunch. On their date, he asked her how much she weighed. That was their last date.

I went out with a guy who had three beers with dinner. That was our last date.

My cousin went out with a girl who turned out to be an epileptic midget. That was their last date.

I had dinner with a guy who, no matter what turn the conversation took, found a way to slam homosexuals. (Was he one?) That was our last date.

 

[Dr Doran]

Paisley, those are amazing. This thread should become a book.

 

[Dr Doran]

Back when it was still an "edgy" thing to do, I answered or placed some personals ads.

The first girl was very pretty, Asian, but there was no chemistry.

The second was not my type at all, a San Francisco State University, Women's Studies major; but I figured "We're in North Beach anyway, so why not try to have a good time." We walked around quite a bit and ended up at Speck's next to Tosca, across from Vesuvio and City Lights Books. We sat at a table and drank and talked. The subject of pornography came up (I did not bring it up). She said it degraded women no matter what. I have nothing invested in this issue, but for the sake of challenging opinions that are a little too automatic, I said what about pornography made for women, by women, featuring only women. SHE HAD NEVER EVEN THOUGHT OF THAT. Intellectually inexcusable for someone holding such a strong opinion -- especially in a city like San Francisco.

I was making her laugh and we were having a fairly nice time. Then she got up to use the facilities and said, on her way out, "I hate sex."

Did she answer a personals ad because she thought I wanted Platonic relationships with the opposite sex? And needed to ADVERTISE for them?

 

[Baron Kurtz]

Gentlemen......why do ex girlfriends offer food or drink to their ex's in front of the new girlfriend?

An obsessive desire to be in control of something?

bk

 

[Paisley]

I thought it was pretty standard not to even talk about your ex on a date, let alone make introductions. [huh]

 

[pennycarrol]

My ex-boyfriend told me one day "I would love to take you somewhere for lunch"! I told myself (in my small/silly head lol), that he intended to take me in a nice restaurant! For the occasion I had made my best to be all dolled up (way too much!!) and I put my best dress! As per usual, we met in front of the Fountain Place des Terreaux, and I told him "there is this Vietnamese restaurant that I would like to try "!!!! And there, he said: "I was thinking about going to McDonald's"! I was so deceived! I had made a joy of this lunch lol! So I ate my nuggets in front of a hungry man who swallowed his cheeseburger really fast lol! He also offered a necklace that he had found on the floor! I am happy that I left him! I do not say that women should be assisted, far from it, but a little chivalry do not harm lol!!

 

[SamMarlowPI]

i remember a gal from one of my english classes who was missing a couple days and i offered to help her with a paper, and to kind of get the ball rolling. it was kind of a date b/c i was thinking of taking her to lunch after. so we met at the library, talking and writing and then out of nowhere she gets her cell phone out and tells me i just have to listen to this ring tone. oh boy...so she plays it and the librarian comes over and asks her to please turn the phone off. i think i was embarassed, so when she told me there was a little Thai restaurant around the corner we could have lunch i said something like, "uh, i gotta go, er, do...something." that was it...don't know if it fits here but it was the only "date" i could think of that went bad...

 

[KittyT]

I thought it was pretty standard not to even talk about your ex on a date, let alone make introductions. [huh]

Yeah, but once you're past the mere dating stage, it's pretty fair game.

 

[KittyT]

As per usual, we met in front of the Fountain Place des Terreaux,

fftopic: Sorry, off topic.... Place des Terreaux... you live in Lyon?

 

[Dr Doran]

My ex-boyfriend told me one day "I would love to take you somewhere for lunch"! I told myself (in my small/silly head lol), that he intended to take me in a nice restaurant! For the occasion I had made my best to be all dolled up (way too much!!) and I put my best dress! As per usual, we met in front of the Fountain Place des Terreaux, and I told him "there is this Vietnamese restaurant that I would like to try "!!!! And there, he said: "I was thinking about going to McDonald's"! I was so deceived! I had made a joy of this lunch lol! So I ate my nuggets in front of a hungry man who swallowed his cheeseburger really fast lol! He also offered a necklace that he had found on the floor! I am happy that I left him! I do not say that women should be assisted, far from it, but a little chivalry do not harm lol!!

Quel terrible bidochon.

 

[pennycarrol]

Yes, absolutely I live in Lyon!! Do you know Lyon?

 

[pennycarrol]

Oui Doran lol!!! Un vrai Bidochon lol lol lol lol lol!!!!!!

 

[Chas]

I can't think of any of my own mistakes right now, but my boyfriend made a BIG one when we were first going out.

I had only been in LA for a few months, and didn't know any of his friends when he invited me to a birthday party for one of his high school friends. Being that I'm quite shy (he knew this, obviously), I expected him to hang with me throughout the night and introduce me to people, etc. That's what you're supposed to do, even if your date is outgoing! Instead he spent the WHOLE night, chatting it up with his ex, leaving me by my nervous self with a bunch of people I had never met before. I was LIVID when we got home.

Eventually I got over it, but still, it was so rude!

I'm surprised that this wasn't your last date with him. He caught a lucky break, I guess.

 

[Undertow]

I haven't been in many relationships but I can tell you I've heard some real zingers.

I won't go into the atrocious details of the completely ruined night, but I will give you two points to consider.

I called a young lady on her cell phone to ask if she'd like to go out Friday night (this is years ago btw). She agreed so I asked if I could pick her up. She gave me directions to the house she was "staying at" and I picked her up. When I got there, there were a few cars in the driveway and being the inquisitive individual that I tend to be, I asked, "So, your roommates having a party?" "No," she said, "My friend Bill was in from out of town and stayed with me last night, that white car is mine, and that other car is my ex boyfriend's." I asked, "So you room with your ex boyfriend?" "Yep."

So after a terrible date, I offered to take her home and she asked, "Could you take me to [different address]?" "Sure," I said, not wanting to be nosy. She killed my curiosity immediately with, "It's this guy's place; he said he'd get me drunk tonight."

Needless to say, I did not take this gal on another date, I didn't even return her calls for a while. She was, in fact, in bed with her exboyfriend, that other friend of hers and the guy that was getting her drunk, along with quite a few others. I got out of that situation fast.

And you might think this story more or less negates the idea of "Dating Etiquette" due to the nature of this young lady, but I must say, it was quite rude to throw out, ""It's this guy's place; he said he'd get me drunk tonight." At least PRETEND like you're not entirely promiscuous. [huh]

 

[Dr Doran]

Oui Doran lol!!! Un vrai Bidochon lol lol lol lol lol!!!!!!

Il y ont plus de Bidochons ici qu'en France, ma cherie. Nous les appellons "hicks" ou (avec une connotation un peu differente) "philistines" aux Etats-Unis.

 

[pigeon toe]

I'm surprised that this wasn't your last date with him. He caught a lucky break, I guess.

He did get lucky! I was so hurt and angry. I think it was just an honest, stupid mistake on his part. He's a wonderful guy and has treated me amazingly ever since, so I'm quite glad I didn't dump him!

 

[KittyT]

I'm surprised that this wasn't your last date with him. He caught a lucky break, I guess.

Yeah, if it was a date, it would be one thing. But she said her "boyfriend", which is a whole other story. You don't ditch a relationship for something like this... unless it's repeat behavior.

 

[Dr Doran]

I haven't been in many relationships but I can tell you I've heard some real zingers.

I won't go into the atrocious details of the completely ruined night, but I will give you two points to consider.

I called a young lady on her cell phone to ask if she'd like to go out Friday night (this is years ago btw). She agreed so I asked if I could pick her up. She gave me directions to the house she was "staying at" and I picked her up. When I got there, there were a few cars in the driveway and being the inquisitive individual that I tend to be, I asked, "So, your roommates having a party?" "No," she said, "My friend Bill was in from out of town and stayed with me last night, that white car is mine, and that other car is my ex boyfriend's." I asked, "So you room with your ex boyfriend?" "Yep."

So after a terrible date, I offered to take her home and she asked, "Could you take me to [different address]?" "Sure," I said, not wanting to be nosy. She killed my curiosity immediately with, "It's this guy's place; he said he'd get me drunk tonight."

Needless to say, I did not take this gal on another date, I didn't even return her calls for a while. She was, in fact, in bed with her exboyfriend, that other friend of hers and the guy that was getting her drunk, along with quite a few others. I got out of that situation fast.

And you might think this story more or less negates the idea of "Dating Etiquette" due to the nature of this young lady, but I must say, it was quite rude to throw out, ""It's this guy's place; he said he'd get me drunk tonight." At least PRETEND like you're not entirely promiscuous. [huh]

Undertow, that's ... amazing.

 

[Paisley]

And you might think this story more or less negates the idea of "Dating Etiquette" due to the nature of this young lady, but I must say, it was quite rude to throw out, ""It's this guy's place; he said he'd get me drunk tonight." At least PRETEND like you're not entirely promiscuous. [huh]

Would you have preferred a story about the cars belonging to the hired help, and going to another house to take care of a sick aunt, followed by more dates, and then finding out months later that she has quite a few she likes as well as you?

If you let people talk long enough, they'll tell on themselves.