Dr Doran
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More bad dating etiquette mistakes.
This one is REALLY bad.
There was a girl I didn't know well but obviously something was brewing between us. We were not, however, on a 'date.'
She asked what sort of girls I usually go for. I told her that I had to have more than only a physical attraction and that I often find that I run out of things to say if they do not know history or "the literature that was formerly known as great" at all. Not a terribly tall request. I listed a few other things. I don't think this girl was lacking in those things necessarily, for the record.
Then I asked her what she looked for in a man. She said "well, you're real picky, aren't you." I said, "Yes, of course -- why, aren't you?" To which she replied, "no, not at all. I go out with whoever comes along."
Needless to say, that was the last time I laid eyes (or hands or anything else) on this indiscriminate young woman.
Discrimination is very important, and a man wants to feel that someone else finds him interesting for good reasons, those good reasons being the things the person is proud of about himself. He also wants to feel that the girl does not invite in all who come her way.
Essentially this girl was saying, "Yes, something might happen between us, but not because I think you are particularly interesting, but because you just happened to come along when I was feeling like having a man around."
This one is REALLY bad.
There was a girl I didn't know well but obviously something was brewing between us. We were not, however, on a 'date.'
She asked what sort of girls I usually go for. I told her that I had to have more than only a physical attraction and that I often find that I run out of things to say if they do not know history or "the literature that was formerly known as great" at all. Not a terribly tall request. I listed a few other things. I don't think this girl was lacking in those things necessarily, for the record.
Then I asked her what she looked for in a man. She said "well, you're real picky, aren't you." I said, "Yes, of course -- why, aren't you?" To which she replied, "no, not at all. I go out with whoever comes along."
Needless to say, that was the last time I laid eyes (or hands or anything else) on this indiscriminate young woman.
Discrimination is very important, and a man wants to feel that someone else finds him interesting for good reasons, those good reasons being the things the person is proud of about himself. He also wants to feel that the girl does not invite in all who come her way.
Essentially this girl was saying, "Yes, something might happen between us, but not because I think you are particularly interesting, but because you just happened to come along when I was feeling like having a man around."
