jlee562
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Funny, sure sounded like one. You're entitled to feel any way you like, of course, but describing a clothing choice as a costume is inherently a judgement.
I wear nothing but vintage. Every day. And yet, I walk the streets and people don't point and stare. I do occasionally get comments from strangers, but they are invariably positive. Invariably.
Whoever said "standing out" was necessarily a bad thing? I can tell you that before I started dressing in my vintage suits and sportscoats and wearing fedoras on a daily basis, I went some thirty-plus years without a single compliment from a stranger; now I get probably three or four a month. That's not so many, but then, I'm 54 and no great shakes in the looks department. Three or four positive remarks in the course of a month, compared to zero over the course of a lifetime, is not too shabby.
Were I to wear a Robin Hood outfit or a Darth Vader mask -- y'know, actual costumes -- I might receive even more comments, but I suspect few of them would be complimentary.
All that said, blend in if that's your preference -- I won't judge you for it. Me, I opt to wear sharp, well-made vintage clothing that fits me pretty darned well, and plenty of people let me know they appreciate it -- especially my thirty-year-old wife (that's right, I'm shamelessly bragging about being married to a much younger woman), who probably wouldn't have been inclined to propose (more bragging!) to a man who wore costumes on a daily basis but appreciates a man who marches to the beat of a different sartorial drummer.
This post probably sounds as if I'm angry or offended, but I'm not, truly. I did have fun composing it, though.
Thanks for the kind words, tealseal.
I'm not really one for blending in, no.
But let me clarify a few points, because apparently I may have unintentionally caused some minor offense.
First of all, I don't assign a particularly negative connotation to the word "costume," quote dictionary.com
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/costume?r=75
1.
a style of dress, including accessories and hairdos, especially that peculiar to a nation, region, group, or historical period.
2.
dress or garb characteristic of another period, place, person, etc., as worn on the stage or at balls.
To use the word to describe an outfit that consisted of period clothing would be accurate in strictly linguistic terms. But beyond that, the OP asked specifically how not to look like one was wearing a costume. Thus, my reply was intended to address this point. If the thread were more generally about "Golden Era" clothing vs contemporary styles of dress, my comment might seem more judgmental. But as the question posed was how to avoid looking like one was in costume, I offered my answer. I think wide brim fedoras can be accommodated in a contemporary style of dress - at any age. Younger folks my generation do prefer stingies; and I own my fair share of stingy brims. But one can wear a wide brim hat that compliments the way one dresses; in fact, wide brims started showing up in runway fashion shows last year or so. Granted, they weren't exactly the same as vintage styled hats, but they were there. For the modern businessman, a nice wide brim is a good touch and can work with a two button coat. And loungers here amply demonstrate how the fedora can be at home in any manner of casual clothing.
So yes, to answer the OP again in the affirmative, I do think anyone can pull off a wider brimmed hat. How wide depends on the individual. But the OP framed the question as a matter of width, and as I said, I don't think the line between regular dress and "costume" is the width of one's brim. That was all I was trying to illustrate.