Paisley
I'll Lock Up
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I learned what the word "resorption" meant today when I had a root canal.
Urgh. I'm so sorry. But glad you're out. And I am so sorry your daughter doesn't have the father she deserves. That is really difficult, and I'm sorry.He's definitely a narcissist. Selfish to the core and in need of constant supply.
Urgh. I'm so sorry. But glad you're out. And I am so sorry your daughter doesn't have the father she deserves. That is really difficult, and I'm sorry.
Want to add--Amateis, your daughter is going to be fine. She has a strong, stable and loving person in her life--you. The fact that you're here and talking about it (not clinging to his ceiling waiting for him to get home so you can do a pile-driver on his head) shows me that you are an amazing woman and just the role-model that your daughter needs.
Hope you all don't mind a new problem thrown in--I'll try to keep it short.
A little background: I had a large ovarian cyst removed in May, and they ended up taking my right ovary and fallopian tube out, too. They couldn't get a good image (ultrasound) of my left ovary because the cyst was so honkin' huge, so I was told that I might have to have another surgery. Yay. Post-surgery, I seemed to be doing OK so they left my other parts alone. Yay! But. Last month, I started to experience just about every menopausal symptom anyone has ever heard of in the history of time. Turns out my left ovary is failing.
I feel like I'm losing my mind. Crazy mood swings, anxiety, depression--and the hot flashes! Lord love a duck, NO ONE can describe those adequately. And the worst part is that I'm becoming impatient with my students. I teach English as a second language and I love my job. My "kids" try so hard to learn our wacky language and all they really need is some patience and encouragement. I haven't snapped at anyone, but I'm definitely not doing as well as I should be, and my students are suffering for it.
So. I'm just wondering how I can get through this without killing someone. I don't even kill bugs, so I'm pretty sure I'd feel bad if I, like, kicked someone to death. I'm taking medication, I've changed my diet and I'm exercising more often. That's helping some, but...I really want to kick someone. I just quit smoking, too.
Maybe this could all work out, though. Amateis, I could pay a little visit to your heartless jerk of an ex. And Lizzie, I could drop in on your boss...
That was a joke. This is my sense of humor now.
I'm doing much better.
The house is on the market and we accepted an offer a bit above asking about 48 hours after the listing was posted. We will see what happens. I've had job training and am in my office. The bed bugged stuff is almost dealt with. And I've decided (for multiple reasons) there's people I'm going to see a LOT LESS.
To get here, though, I've crashed. I've been having tension headaches (which are getting better) and that really messes me up because I am high risk for brain metatasis, and well, thinking about that doesn't help my stress levels and headaches EITHER.
I went to the store the other day and treated the kids to stuff while I combed the makeup aisle and I found 2 matte lipsticks I love.
Thank you all for the kind advice. I'm recognizing that I need to practice better self care and from here on out doing stuff for myself has to be a priority. I even went for a drive the other day (with the kids) and just enjoyed the countryside someplace i had never been (threw the kids snacks and drinks and told them we were going for a drive and to enjoy the scenery and listen to the radio rather than talking to me). With the house up for sale I'm no longer single mothering it and I'm back at work (with the kids in care during the day) so that's given me an outlet. My husband is encouraging me to take a night or two at a local hotel to have a mini-vacation. We'll see.
One of the things that this has taught us is we have limits, and I'm not sure we can handle another fixer-upper we do ourselves. This is a hard decision we haven't made yet, but with young kids and two demanding jobs (and I run a business on the side) we don't have the time to do things that a DIY place needs.
Yes, there is an HR department. I reported the psychological harassment to the general manager and I asked to him to send to another job site. He said no since there will not be enough staff at my location. And to file for harassment with HR. The problem is there is no harassment form on file and I called HR and the lady that handles this only told me to send her an Email and did not explain what it is she needs me to send. Well I was super confused as to what to do but I did some research and thanks to the good old internet I found out some things that I needed to send. I am still not sure it will be enough information and I do not want to file ASAP until I have every thing that I think I need to send to HR.Nathalie, do you have an HR department? This problem sounds too serious to try to handle all by yourself.