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So are you suggesting there wasn't even one honest cop in the entire police force of the town? What about the County Sheriffs or the State Police, if applicable? I have a very close friend who is a cop in small town America and he regularly attends calls where three or even sometimes four different agencies show up. If it's just the old "cops never go against each other" mantra, I find it a little insulting, and frankly it just isn't true. There have been plenty of crooked cops arrested and charged by their fellow cops, and many convictions. For every cop who's willing to cover for a lowlife dirtbag like the criminal you describe, there are probably five more who would love nothing better than to strip off his badge and throw him in the deepest darkest prison not only for being a wife beating piece of scum, but for disgracing the uniform they are proud to wear every day.
The restraining order makes it extremely easy for the cops to arrest and charge a person who violates it. The idea is that all buddy has to do is come too close and he's liable to be arrested and charged; it's one more tool in law enforcement's tool box to use against these criminals. Would I expect a restraining order alone to keep me safe? No, but I'd sure get one anyways and then take other steps to protect myself.
This situation you describe is becoming more and more unusual, to the point where it really loses all applicability to the topic at hand. I don't really think the original poster was even referring to actual abuse, but rather women who stay in bad relationships (short of abuse) with assholes because they seek them out in the first place and then fail to do anything about it after the fact.
Also, I sure hope the person you know did something to assist this poor woman.
I have no idea why you insist on drilling this point into the ground. I really don't care if the original post I was replying to wasn't specifically speaking about this level of abuse- I replied to that and you replied to me. I then brought up a specific example of the level of abuse some individuals face and the two of us have been speaking to a very specific scenario that involved horrendous physical abuse since that time. Throughout this discussion you have picked apart an abuse victim's decisions, questioning her actions.
As far as your comment about if the person I know did something to assist, she tried, but the abuser blinded her in one eye with a wrench. She was 5 years old.