Valentine's Day. What's your view?

[Paisley]

To quote Skip James-
You know I never missed my water
'Till my well went dry
Didn't miss Crow Jane
Until the day she died

I've never thought about whether my sister-in-law misses my brother. [huh] After all those years together I'm sure she does.

 

[AmateisGal]

I've never had a boyfriend on Valentine's Day, so I've never really celebrated it. I've never had to worry about getting someone something, because I've never received anything. This year looks like more of the same.

I've gotten used to it now-- in middle school and high school it was tough because I never had a boyfriend so I never had anyone to spend lunch with holding hands and such. I was always very jealous of the girls that got flowers and teddy bears, and it hurt a lot, actually, that I was never good enough for any of the boys.

This is my second Valentine's day out of high school, and college is a bit better-- it's not as "in your face."

I guess the only way I feel about Valentine's day is left out. Maybe I'll feel different if I ever have a Valentine. I should find something to do on Valentine's day instead of moping, though. Maybe I'll got volunteer somewhere or something.

Maggie, this could have been written by me. I hated Valentine's Day in high school and college. In fact, some single friends and I once wore black on Valentine's Day in college in protest. I, too, always felt left out and had this bizarre hope that I had a secret admirer who would make himself known on that day. Never happened.

I still don't enjoy it, even though when we were married, my husband always got me something.

 

[Paisley]

I should get a little box of candy for all the recent widows and widowers I know: my brother-in-law, sister-in-law and neighbor. And one for me too.

 

[Caity Lynn]

Valentines Day in Elementary and Jr.High wasn't too bad.In Elementary if you did Valentines you HAD to give one to EVERYONE.No one left out. In Jr.High we did Carnations and Candy, The school's Cheerleaders sold them, so you bought one for your whole "group" of friends, and it was all good. I went to public school in 8th grade, and got asked out on V-day so I wasn't too sad, but now...V-day is just to sappy for me.

 

[Diamondback]

It can be hard to move on when you see the person every day.

I keep in mind what my brother told me: a lot of married people would love to trade places with you. He was married long enough to know.

One of those 'grass is greener on the other side' things? OTOH, my single datapoint of comparison was my second year on my alma mater's paper, where that editor I had fallen for and I happened to end up doing a restaurant-review together on Valentine's Day...

Someone will be thinking any one of us and pondering sending a card but they won't go through with it

Or, in some cases, would like to send somebody one but wouldn't know where to send it.

 

[ortega76]

Maggie, this could have been written by me. I hated Valentine's Day in high school and college. In fact, some single friends and I once wore black on Valentine's Day in college in protest. I, too, always felt left out and had this bizarre hope that I had a secret admirer who would make himself known on that day. Never happened.

I still don't enjoy it, even though when we were married, my husband always got me something.

At my alma mater, one of the campus bars threw a "Bitterness Bash" complete with an incinerator to burn the mementos of past relationships.

 

[59Lark]

oh to love again.

The grass is always greener over the septic tank, having been married for twenty years. The girl that i remember is the one that told me to get as much sex before marriage cause there wouldnt much after. The 12 to14 hours days and the diapers and the mortage take their toll. I just stayed up this late so i could record something for my wife on the old vcr tv in my workshop, no i dont know how to use the timer. Isnt that love, there are times that i would gladly trade my wife in , and probably vice versus, but I would really see how a person mood swings are , where i in the market ever again. LOVE is a bowl of cherries how come i am here with the pits. I always take my family sometimes even my elderly mother out for valentines, even if its only the old diner. Wishing the best for those with sweethearts and wishing you too find someone for those that are without, yours 59Lark.fftopic:

 

[Paisley]

One of those 'grass is greener on the other side' things? OTOH, my single datapoint of comparison was my second year on my alma mater's paper, where that editor I had fallen for and I happened to end up doing a restaurant-review together on Valentine's Day...

The beautiful and mysterious tends to look glamorous: romance to the ingenue, the single life to someone who married young.

 

[Miss 1929]

Yes!

...I just stayed up this late so i could record something for my wife on the old vcr tv in my workshop, no i dont know how to use the timer. Isnt that love, ... I always take my family sometimes even my elderly mother out for valentines, even if its only the old diner. Wishing the best for those with sweethearts and wishing you too find someone for those that are without, yours 59Lark.fftopic:

Lark, you're a romantic!
That is love, when you do something for someone else. :eusa_clap

 

[Forgotten Man]

I have some ideas but, don't want to divulge... ya see, she lurks around here too some times Want it to be a surprise.

 

[pretty faythe]

It bites.
Last year I tried to get my friend to be my valentine, but he doesn't do valentines day.
I guess loving your friend who has issues and baggage doesn't really help much lol

 

[AmateisGal]

At my alma mater, one of the campus bars threw a "Bitterness Bash" complete with an incinerator to burn the mementos of past relationships.

Haha. I probably would have gone.

 

[Abyss]

I've never been in a relationship on Valentine's day... dumped a week before, yes, but never had a girl on the day.

In high school, for Valentine's day you could buy a rose and have it delivered to someone in their classroom. I had three female friends who were bummed about being single my senior year, so I sent each of them a flower, with the name written as "Anonymous." Well, except for the girl who really liked Batman; that Valentine's day she got a rose from Batman.

 

[jayem]

I've never been in a relationship on Valentine's day... dumped a week before, yes, but never had a girl on the day.

In high school, for Valentine's day you could buy a rose and have it delivered to someone in their classroom. I had three female friends who were bummed about being single my senior year, so I sent each of them a flower, with the name written as "Anonymous." Well, except for the girl who really liked Batman; that Valentine's day she got a rose from Batman.

The Batman part made me laugh, because I imagined Adam West delivering a rose to some chick in a high school classroom.

 

[carter]

Our men and women overseas

Here's something we can do for others on Valentine's Day.
https://www.uso.org/donate/custom.aspx?id=1253&

 

[ScionPI2005]

There's only one Valentine's Day in my history where I've been dating someone. This year will mark the second time. I'm looking forward to it; mainly just because of the social opportunity to be with the person I'm dating. I can certainly understand the frustrations towards the holiday; I've tried to ignore it in my past.

 

[KittyVonKirsche]

I love it. We make a big thing of it. we even send anonomous cards to my 12yr old. been doing that since she was tiny. We're off out for dinner and to see Phantom of the Opera this year. i think its lovely. If you dont like the commercialism of it then dont subscribe to that side of it. Theres so much nastiness in the world why would anyone be anti a day thats all about love?

 

[Fleur De Guerre]

I'm in a relationship this time, but we are still thinking of going to the Last Tuesday Society bash, Loss, where they tell you:

"Come cry with us as the Onion Juice Flows and we Revel in our sad Miserable dateless loneliness
The Evening Will Be Introduced at 8pm by a seminar on “How To Deal With a Broken Heart by The Independent’s Agony Aunt Virginia Ironside

Followed by an evening of the Most Miserable and Depressing Performances.

Smiling Is Strictly Discouraged out of Deference To The Feelings of Other Guests,
Anyone Found To be Smiling will Be Fined The Sum of £1 by
The Smile Box

Enter The House of Misery and be comforted by
Viktor Wynd’s Famous Cheeseboard of Stale Stilton & Mouldy Camembert
or dry your tears on the crumbs at
The Deceased Butterflies Woodland Picnic

Chop Onions and Cry Your Eyes out
in
The House of Tears

Bring Your Handkerchiefs For the First Meeting in 2009 of
The Sad Poets Society

or join Suzette Field in her little tent as she teaches you how to make voodoo dolls of your spurned dates and exs, and put pins in their painful bits.

Dress Code - Decaying Beauty"

lol

 

[ortega76]

Haha. I probably would have gone.

As far as I know, they still do it on Valentine's Day. I never burned anything, but I heard it was a big event for hook-ups.

 

[Harp]

Thou wouldst be loved?-then let thy heart
From its present pathway part not!
Being everything which now thou art,
Be nothing which thou art not.
So with the world thy gentle ways,
Thy grace, thy more than beauty,
Shall be an endless theme of praise,
And love-a simple duty.

Edgar Allan Poe, To F,S.O

<Bump> ...couldn't resist