Mr./Ms./Mrs.

[Paisley]

If you prefer titles, in what situation? Professional, work, all?

 

[Elaina]

I work a lot with my son and his activities and I'd prefer to be called Mrs. Flessas compared to Elaina or "Hey Lady" and the occasional "hey bitch" I do get.

I introduce myself as such to children, and sign letters and correspondence that way. I also say "this is Mrs. Flessas" over the phone in business dealings.

Personally, I don't really care. If I know you well enough to talk to you, Elaina is fine. If you have to shorten my name, Elle is also acceptable. Tima and a place really for me.

 

[Lady Day]

For youth (pre teens) I prefer Miss Shelley in the cosmic chance that that would be possible

For peers, 'your highness' will do.

But older folks can call me what they wish, they have earned it.


LD

 

[scotrace]

I prefer

"Snookybritches."

 

[Benny Holiday]

Whilst I applaud the respectful use of a title such as Mr., Miss or Mrs in general, on a personal level I always feel pompous being called Mr Holiday. When I hear someone say, "Mr Holiday," I almost look around to see if my Dad's standing behind me!

 

[Marc Chevalier]

I don't care either way.


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[Lauren]

I think it's endearing to be called Miss by people I've never met before. It's probably the history buff in me

 

[Lady Day]

"Snookybritches."

Soooo...Mr. Snookybritches? lol

LD

 

[scotrace]

Sorry. Being serious.

I prefer Mr. Huffington-Smythe. I don't care to be called Scott by someone I have just met. And vice-versa. Miss Lauren seems better.
The why: Names are a bear for me. If I only have to remember one of your names, it doubles my odds of getting it right.

 

[Miss Neecerie]

I would rather Miss then Maam.....

Ma'am makes me feel 102....and even though I am indeed well past 'miss' age......102 I am not.

 

[Miss Crisplock]

Well I answered "Yes", and I hope that reflects my feelings. I prefer to be called "Miss" Crisplock until we know each other better. Then I get to have the pleasure of inviting someone to the intimacy of using my first name.



In a spa setting, I invarably refer to clients as "Madam" if I don't know their name, and if very young "Madamoiselle".

 

[Paisley]

I prefer to be called "Miss Miller" or "Ma'am" by people I don't know. I had a teacher who called me Miss Miller from the time I was about 12 years old. Later, starting at age 18, I was sometimes called ma'am in the military. So formal terms don't make me feel old, they make me feel respected.

The idea for this thread came about after a phone conversation with a nurse who kept calling me "hon" (as in "honey") even though she knew my first and last name. I found it condescending. The rest of her demeanor was equally unprofessional and disrespectful. :rage: Need I say I am going elsewhere for treatment, to a practice where one of the founding doctors treated me with respect many years ago, even though I have to wait until January?

Now, in a different situation, e.g., if I were suffering and needed comforting, an endearing term might have been appropriate.

 

[Rosie]

I prefer to be called Ms. Stephens by people younger than me. People my age, either or though I will always call someone my own age Miss, Ms., Mrs. or Mr. until they tell me to call them by their first name or until we are friendly unless we are in a professional situation. I am starting a new position next week and my direct supervisor is a few years older than me, I call her Ms. ______ even though she has told me to call her by her first name because she is my boss.

Older people, no matter my relationship to them I call Mr. or Mrs. Ms. Miss (their last name) and on the ocassions they have insisted I call them by their first name, I will still call them Ms. Barbara or whatever their name happens to be.

When I meet a gentleman, even if he is someone I have romantic inklings towards, I address them as Mr.________ until I feel more comfortable with them. People usually get a kick out of that.

 

[Rosie]

The idea for this thread came about after a phone conversation with a nurse who kept calling me "hon" (as in "honey") even though she knew my first and last name. I found it condescending. The rest of her demeanor was equally unprofessional and disrespectful. :rage: Need I say I am going elsewhere for treatment, to a practice where one of the founding doctors treated me with respect many years ago, even though I have to wait until January?

Now, in a different situation, e.g., if I were suffering and needed comforting, an endearing term might have been appropriate.

My mom does this a lot. She calls everyone Hon, Sweetheart, Sugar. I don't think she means it condescendingly, she's just really sweet though she admits it isn't something she really should do.

 

[Paisley]

My mom does this a lot. She calls everyone Hon, Sweetheart, Sugar. I don't think she means it condescendingly, she's just really sweet though she admits it isn't something she really should do.

Some people do carry it off better than others. As you say, I think it takes a lot of natural sweetness. Something that Nurse Yuckybritches was short on.

 

[LizzieMaine]

Well, I'm not a Mrs. anymore, and I'm just a bit too old to be a Miss -- so does that make me a Near-Miss?

 

["Doc" Devereux]

A stranger addressing me as David without an introduction gets my back up. A sales or customer service type doing so without permission immediately loses my business. I don't care which of my titles you select, but I expect one to be used until clearance is given to do otherwise.

 

[herringbonekid]

i agree David.

 

[Marc Chevalier]

Yes, Davey baby, I also agree.


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[Tony in Tarzana]

I think the only people who should be allowed to call one "Hon" are waitresses in diners where the food is good and the hot coffee is always flowing.