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Moments of Doubt...

LizzieMaine

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I found entirely the opposite to be true. In a very large city you are anonymous. Nobody gives a crap what you do, for the most part. I love it.

"oftentimes people know about you before you even know who they are". This is the reason I no longer live in a small town. I couldn't stand this imposition; the nosiness and gossiping.

I've walked thru Harlem at night in full vintage regalia and got nothing but "whoa, nice coat." And I've gotten the same thing in a small town. In the former case it was because I was anonymous and in the latter case it was because everybody knew me.
 

Yeps

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I've walked thru Harlem at night in full vintage regalia and got nothing but "whoa, nice coat." And I've gotten the same thing in a small town. In the former case it was because I was anonymous and in the latter case it was because everybody knew me.

And this is why both are infinitely superior to the suburbs.
 

PrettySquareGal

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I've walked thru Harlem at night in full vintage regalia and got nothing but "whoa, nice coat." And I've gotten the same thing in a small town. In the former case it was because I was anonymous and in the latter case it was because everybody knew me.

What was a girl from Rockland doing in uptown NYC at night?
 

Amy Jeanne

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I found entirely the opposite to be true. In a very large city you are anonymous. Nobody gives a crap what you do, for the most part. I love it.

My experience as well. I lived in a small "redneck" town in NJ for 31 years and all I got was hassle. I got called a freak, weirdo, and even various names for a "loose woman" -- all because the small minds didn't know what to make of me. I moved to Philly in 2007 and I either get ignored or complimented. I've never been complimented for my style before so I prefer the city to ANY small town ANY DAY.

I don't have any clothing rules. One day I might wear skinny jeans and a skinny T, the next a handmade 1930s dress with full-on 30s hair, and the next day I might want to look full-on "rockabilly." I don't believe in hair, makeup, or clothing rules. :D Aside for what is socially acceptable, of course ;) I had a moment of doubt when I wore 30s/40s dresses every single day. I decided I didn't like it EVERY SINGLE DAY so now I mix it up. If that doesn't make me "vintage enough" for some people, then so be it. I know the passion is mostly in my heart anyway :D
 

Mr Vim

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You know, it is a rare thing that someone has the audacity to make a snide comment to your person, mostly because I think folks really are taken aback by how well dressed we folks are, vintage or not, dressing swell make you feel better about yourself.
 
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I think more often than not, they make a remark because the person is dressed better and it reflects poorly on the person making the insult.

You know, it is a rare thing that someone has the audacity to make a snide comment to your person, mostly because I think folks really are taken aback by how well dressed we folks are, vintage or not, dressing swell make you feel better about yourself.
 

mimesis2nemesis

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I am 23, but I started wearing vintage style since I was 16, And have gone through a lot of different phases while doing it. In the beginning it was because I wanted to look different, just to stand out., but as time passed I realized that I really liked it, not because I stood out but simply because it felt... right. I felt right in that style, it suited me. My father bought me a very cool 3-piece suit and I loved to wear it daily, with a black fedora that I used to own. When it began, I was ridiculed day to day, but being as stubborn as I am I continued. Eventually, when I started to go to college I dropped the style completely, specially since my chosen carrer (animation) has a completely different dress code. For a very long time I tried to feel comfortable in the plain T-shirt and jeans attire, but the funny thing is... I realized that I really don't like it. I can't explain it, but I simply can't feel good like that. It's simply... not me. So... Just a few months back I started wearing it again. And the sensation... I felt like myself again. Of course, everybody else just thinks its weird and they tease me about it, but I found out I simply don't really care about it anymore. It's what I like, and in the end that's all it matters.
 
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I've noticed that, and I hate to generalize for fear of sounding like I'm stereotyping, but African-Americans seem to typically have better fashion taste. I know a lot of people are probably immediately thinking of 'gangsta' style. However, if you watch when folks have a formal event to go to that requires any sort of dressing up, look who does a better job with coordinating their attire and really knocking it out of the park.

African-Americans of all ages and socioeconomic strata have always complimented my vintage look. Always.
 

Flat Foot Floey

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Yes, sometimes I have this moments of doubt but for different reasons than you described. Some comments in vintage fora make me want to shave.a Mohawk (again)
 

Amy Jeanne

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Yes, sometimes I have this moments of doubt but for different reasons than you described. Some comments in vintage fora make me want to shave.a Mohawk (again)

lol
Made my day. I have that "silly" pink hair and love it. I will wear it twice as hard for you. lol
 
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MissMittens

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I've personally had black, blonde, black and red together......when I was in a band, that's just the kind of thing you do. I have no problems with anyone coloring their hair
 

Undertow

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African-Americans of all ages and socioeconomic strata have always complimented my vintage look. Always.

This has been my experience, also. From the common "bag man" to the well-to-do folks. They're often correct on the era of my clothing, too. The missus and I appreciate it immensely. It always beats the, "Are you in a play?" comments we receive everywhere else.
 

Flat Foot Floey

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Thanks, lolly_loisides, Amy Jeanne and Yeps. I also met some wonderful people through the same fora and I am very glad about it. I really like the 30s suits too much to change anything about it anyway. Besides...the punk scene isn't much better. They judge bands and people if they are true punks or sellouts. Plain silly. The only difference is that their golden era is from 76-83. You know Dead Kennedys with Jello, Misfits with Glen and Black Flag With Henry...
 

Amy Jeanne

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Thanks, lolly_loisides, Amy Jeanne and Yeps. I also met some wonderful people through the same fora and I am very glad about it. I really like the 30s suits too much to change anything about it anyway. Besides...the punk scene isn't much better. They judge bands and people if they are true punks or sellouts. Plain silly. The only difference is that their golden era is from 76-83. You know Dead Kennedys with Jello, Misfits with Glen and Black Flag With Henry...

Yup, I did the punk thing in the 80s. And the Riot Grrrl thing in the 90s. All the same. All specialized interests have people who are more special than others. lol
 

Flat Foot Floey

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True. But it was good to make the experiences :D
It's still a part of my life and formed my thinking. Maybe more than other subcultures would have.
 

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