LizzieMaine
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I thought I might chime in here; I still really love reading this forum, but after one unpleasant encounter I stopped feeling comfortable posting in some of the threads. I guess I'd like to say that there is a significant difference between being openly insulted, bullied, or threatened, and being subjected to rudeness. From what I've experienced personally and have seen around various threads, I'm under the impression (and please correct me if I am wrong) that a lot of the behavior is directed at women.
I get plenty of pressure at work and don't feel a need to engage in it off-hours. I only post on this forum when I'm at home, and I just don't want to bring untoward remarks about women into my home.
I understand that moderators can't spend their entire lives reading every thread and slapping down every rude poster. That's not reasonable. I just wish that there were a way to ask some folks, gently and reasonably, to try to be a little more gentlemanly.
I'm glad to see you back around, St. Lou., and I remember very well the incident you're referring to. Unfortunately, it wasn't in a forum where I'm moderator, because if it was, I would have put an immediate stop to it.
In general, the men around here are decent sorts. There are a few stone-headed reactionaries, as you're likely to get in any "retro" forum, but there are also men of quality who tend to keep the former type in their place. As always, if you find yourself having trouble with a specific member, feel free to report it directly to the moderator of the forum where the incident took place, and it will be investigated.