Did I say anywhere in my rambling posts that the rules of etiquette proved any additional measure of safety for women? I sometimes talk around a subject without saying much. Overall, I don't think they did. But I don't think they in any way suppressed women, though that may be a more arguable point. But the rules of good manners will still always be there, problematic though they may be.
Good manners are problematic because they are complex and they vary from place to place. Generally speaking, though, you will be well received if you use your own good manners in other places where the rules are a little different. You have a long time learning good manners but you manage okay because you start learning manners almost from birth. The only disclaimers is that you have to be reared by people with good manners and some people weren't, even though they may have learned which fork to use. That fact give etiquette a bad name. It's considered to be phony and pretentious. Some people are phony but most people are real and are not pretending. They way you see them is the way they really are. And if they're like everyone else I've ever known, that's the way they've always been.
Good manners are problematic because they are complex and they vary from place to place. Generally speaking, though, you will be well received if you use your own good manners in other places where the rules are a little different. You have a long time learning good manners but you manage okay because you start learning manners almost from birth. The only disclaimers is that you have to be reared by people with good manners and some people weren't, even though they may have learned which fork to use. That fact give etiquette a bad name. It's considered to be phony and pretentious. Some people are phony but most people are real and are not pretending. They way you see them is the way they really are. And if they're like everyone else I've ever known, that's the way they've always been.