Young men living at home in the Golden Era?

[ChiTownScion]

There's real value in a couple sharing a common frame of reference, common experiences, and a common worldview. Marriages across class or cultural lines often lack these ingredients, and the result is often tension -- not just between the couple, but between the in-laws, and it doesn't always disappear over time. Inevitably, one side -- usually the side "marrying up" -- is made to feel that the onus of "adapting" is entirely on them. I know this from personal experience that I have no intention of ever repeating.

Three basic areas I have found to be the source of tensions in a marriage: money, kids, and in-laws.

 

[LizzieMaine]

I suspect it may have been more common than we think. In The Era, "lonely hearts" clubs existed, which usually sold subscription based memberships to receive publications filled with personals adds. Some newspapers also had a "lonely hearts" category in their classifieds section too. The arrest and sensational murder trial of the "lonely hearts killers" in 1949 made national headlines. Martha Beck and Raymond Fernandez -- a pair of con artists who'd actually met through a personal -- used these kind of adds to prey on vulnerable women, many of whom the murdered!

"Matrimonial Bureaus" were a major fad during the Depression, although the actual marriage rate was significantly down. Conclusions can be easily drawn.

 

[Fading Fast]

There's real value in a couple sharing a common frame of reference, common experiences, and a common worldview. Marriages across class or cultural lines often lack these ingredients, and the result is often tension -- not just between the couple, but between the in-laws, and it doesn't always disappear over time. Inevitably, one side -- usually the side "marrying up" -- is made to feel that the onus of "adapting" is entirely on them. I know this from personal experience that I have no intention of ever repeating.

Anybody who thought he was going to change you was not worthy of you and was not a smart reader of people.

 

[HudsonHawk]

Anybody who thought he was going to change you was not worthy of you and was not a smart reader of people.

Plus he was probably a Yankees fan. I mean, can you imagine...

 

[LizzieMaine]

Plus he was probably a Yankees fan. I mean, can you imagine...

Mixed marriages never work.

 

[Stanley Doble]

Some women see a husband the way they see an old house, as something to remodel.