Cross-posted to Style Forum, General Chat + Body Conciousness and The Fedora Lounge, as I think it a worldwide problem.
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The emphasis is on gentleman.
I loathe the nano-cerebral sub-species who appear to be breading faster than the gentle folk. Scum - every single one of them.
They can sense a civilized individual. They know that 'normal' folk, don't attack or kill others for pointless reasons, dislike fighting, or at least dislike fighting over something trivial and pathetic. This gives them an instant psychological advantage.
The worst thing a cultured (well, I'm not sure I'd call myself that) person can do is try to engage in conversation with these types. They'll instantly realize that good voice, well spoken = softy pacifist.
I'm continually finding myself in situations, where I'm left to skulk away like a coward. But it's NOT cowardice! The logical part of my mind is already racing ahead, and I can see before me:
* A call to the police by another member of the public.
* A body slumped on the floor (not mine).
* Me, now being accused, even though I was merely defending myself.
* Hundreds/thousands of pounds worth of clothes possibly ruined.
* Getting carted away to the police cells.
* Getting arrested.
* Having DNA taken and put onto UK database.
* Time taken out of the day.
* Unable to attend event/gathering you were due at.
* If with another civilized individual, you could also cause their day/night/life to be ruined.
* Going to court.
* Going to jail
* Event gets reported in local/national paper
I must have the patience of a saint and self-control of a monk. I'm constantly amazed at the bravery of some of these people. The most amusing was when I was continually thumped by a random female office worker. She was annoyed that I'd found an empty queue, that no one else had happened upon. She was literally trying to beat me to the ground. Yet - I'm 6'2", wear a size 48 jacket, bench and dead-lift a respectable amount and look very much as if I can handle myself. BUT EVEN THAT DIDN'T DETER HER! Amazing. I didn't lift a finger. As she left, I merely muttered to the crowd, " Well, I won't be inviting her round for dinner" ( a line from a script).
Did I mention that I hate these people. I HATE THEM!
I know that I'm not a coward. I once helped a Chinese guy who was crying in the street after he'd been mugged. I only did it because I felt sorry for him. I managed to hold the mugger until the police arrived to cart him off. No one cared about the victim until I had the thief held. Then a crowd of about fifty gathered from nowhere, accusing me of all sorts. Crazy!
However, I just can't bring myself to fight another human being. It bothers me SO MUCH that I'm not manning up to these situations, continually letting scum ride roughshod over me.
I need reassurance. Please, someone out there - who can very much take care of themselves - tell me that they have this happen to them as well. Tell me also that you never lift a finger.
It's always after the event. You run through your mind what you could/should have done, then realize the possible consequences for you and others.
It's also NOT the behaviour of a gentleman.
What do we do?
Lear
If this is not an appropriate thread for TFF, then Admin - please move/delete.
The emphasis is on gentleman.
I loathe the nano-cerebral sub-species who appear to be breading faster than the gentle folk. Scum - every single one of them.
They can sense a civilized individual. They know that 'normal' folk, don't attack or kill others for pointless reasons, dislike fighting, or at least dislike fighting over something trivial and pathetic. This gives them an instant psychological advantage.
The worst thing a cultured (well, I'm not sure I'd call myself that) person can do is try to engage in conversation with these types. They'll instantly realize that good voice, well spoken = softy pacifist.
I'm continually finding myself in situations, where I'm left to skulk away like a coward. But it's NOT cowardice! The logical part of my mind is already racing ahead, and I can see before me:
* A call to the police by another member of the public.
* A body slumped on the floor (not mine).
* Me, now being accused, even though I was merely defending myself.
* Hundreds/thousands of pounds worth of clothes possibly ruined.
* Getting carted away to the police cells.
* Getting arrested.
* Having DNA taken and put onto UK database.
* Time taken out of the day.
* Unable to attend event/gathering you were due at.
* If with another civilized individual, you could also cause their day/night/life to be ruined.
* Going to court.
* Going to jail
* Event gets reported in local/national paper
I must have the patience of a saint and self-control of a monk. I'm constantly amazed at the bravery of some of these people. The most amusing was when I was continually thumped by a random female office worker. She was annoyed that I'd found an empty queue, that no one else had happened upon. She was literally trying to beat me to the ground. Yet - I'm 6'2", wear a size 48 jacket, bench and dead-lift a respectable amount and look very much as if I can handle myself. BUT EVEN THAT DIDN'T DETER HER! Amazing. I didn't lift a finger. As she left, I merely muttered to the crowd, " Well, I won't be inviting her round for dinner" ( a line from a script).
Did I mention that I hate these people. I HATE THEM!
I know that I'm not a coward. I once helped a Chinese guy who was crying in the street after he'd been mugged. I only did it because I felt sorry for him. I managed to hold the mugger until the police arrived to cart him off. No one cared about the victim until I had the thief held. Then a crowd of about fifty gathered from nowhere, accusing me of all sorts. Crazy!
However, I just can't bring myself to fight another human being. It bothers me SO MUCH that I'm not manning up to these situations, continually letting scum ride roughshod over me.
I need reassurance. Please, someone out there - who can very much take care of themselves - tell me that they have this happen to them as well. Tell me also that you never lift a finger.
It's always after the event. You run through your mind what you could/should have done, then realize the possible consequences for you and others.
It's also NOT the behaviour of a gentleman.
What do we do?
Lear