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I saw a movie the other day, I think it was 1930's "Street Scene" or it could have been in 1951's "Love Next," but in some throw-away line a father noted to his wife that "the kid" was to do as told and not complain, period, full stop with the implication being that is how kids are raised.
Cultures have norms and while I have no doubt (and have seen evidence that) there was a wide range of how kids were raised back then as there is a wide range now, there is also a cultural norm or narrative - the "publicly acceptable" way to raise kids - that almost everyone, at least to some degree, represents is how they raise their kids.
Growing up, my parents - like most of the parents in my neighborhood - thought nothing of leaving their six, seven, eight, etc., year-old kid (not baby) in the car for - pick a number - ten, twenty or thirty minutes (not two or three hours) to run an errand or two. In the summer, the window was cracked. That was an acceptable cultural thing to do. Today it isn't and, depending on the facts and circumstances, could be viewed as abuse.
One of the fun and interesting things about old movies is to see those cultural norms change.
2Jakes' line, noted above, says it very well as, growing up, it wasn't even a consideration in my house that I would complain about almost anything. Gratitude or, at least, quiet acceptance was expected and while each house was different to a degree, that was pretty much how all but a few of my friends were raised*. Today, it seems the complete opposite where kids are encourage to - if not complain - at minimum, express their own point of view and objections with parents - publicly, at least - embracing this approach.
That's it, just doing what we do here: pointing out Golden Era norms and changes over time.
* Growing up, I was always uncomfortable with the few friends I had that were allowed to talk back to their parents because I kept expecting the parents to get angry and put a stop to it quickly. Even though it didn't happen, I - even to this day - am uncomfortable when a child talks back or is (what would have been when I was growing up) rude to his or her parents. I never, ever say anything to parents or kids (even ones I know well) when this is happening (not my business), but I am still very uncomfortable when it happens.
The main difference, I think, is that there was a time when people viewed children as miniature adults because of a combination of myths, superstitions and lack of understanding of basic neurological science. We know a lot more nowadays than we did eighty years ago about the actual biochemical process of child development, and the many ways in which the brain of a child differs physically from that of an adult -- a kid is simply not physically able to process information or control reactions in the way that an adult does because the parts of the brain that would allow them to do this simply haven't evolved in their heads yet, and you can't hasten that process along by harsh discipline. Science doesn't work that way.
Insisting that a child repress their natural emotional responses at all times and behave "like an adult" is as damaging to that child as forcing a left-handed kid to write right handed. Terrorizing kids with a "sit down and shut up or I'll belt you" as a philosophy of child rearing has left a lot of damaged people behind. You can beat a dog to make it stop barking, but there's a good chance that dog will eventually tear your throat out. That we've, mostly, come to understand this is a very positive sort of cultural change, one driven by science rather than one driven by "I said so, that's why. Now sit down and shut up."
I think the fact that we have so many older people today in positions of authority who are clearly the product of severe emotional and developmental damage which they act out every day in public makes all this quite evident. I'd rather hear a kid have a tantrum in a grocery store any day of the week than watch yet another elderly man have a tantrum on C-Span.