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vintage for teenage girls

megaravintage

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Hi everyone I, am new here and need some help.You see i have been wearing vintage dresses since i was 15 but sometimes i wish that i could have a more modern and youthful style without sacrificing the look that i love.Also the comments that people make and the attention can make me uncomfortable,But i think what is worse is i am always embarrased around boys and wonder if they find me unnatractive.I do not wear full vintage just vintage dresses with modern hair and accesories.Do you ladies have any advice about how i could look more modern? What about the boys? Any help or advice would be wonderful.
 

MissNathalieVintage

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It is so cool that you have been wearing vintage for that long.You can check out Zooey Deschanel she is a good example of vintage youth with a modern twist.
https://www.google.com/search?q=zoo...gB#tbm=isch&q=zooey+deschanel+vintage+fashion
I can understand why you do not want all the unwelcome added attention, people they don't make an effort and yours makes them feel insecure. When I first started wearing vintage there was no rule book on what to expect I too hated all the extra attention and just wanted to live in peace , to be able to walk out of the house in all my vintageness with out being stared at. At one point I thought about going back to modern dress but then my sister said "what happened to you being vintage?" this totally changed my mind completely. And hearing a quote on the radio "You're Born an Original, Don't Die a Copy" its a quote I now live by.
I would not worry about "if" boys find you unattractive, I use to feel the same way until I started pouring myself more into my favorite hobbies and joining groups that interested me around the city this helped me a lot and took the focus off of myself I became a lot more happy and stared not caring what other people thought about me or of boys were interested in me, I am happy being myself.
Here is also a great book to read called Betty Cornell's Glamour Guide for teens just click on the book to turn the pages https://archive.org/details/bettycornellsgla00bett There is also a section in the book call personality I found very helpful to me.

Here is a great youtube video on being stared at.
 
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sheeplady

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I wouldn't really worry about the boys. The right boy will love your vintage dresses and love you for, well, you. Perhaps you'll even land a fedora wearing lad someday. :) But it is very important that you love you for you; no boy can make up for loving yourself, and many women try to feel their void of self-love with the love of others. It does not end well. Loving yourself is very important.
 

fgradowski

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Honestly, I wore vintage dresses in high school, and I didn't give a poop about what others thought. Sure, I got lots of comments daily, but it was what I liked. That was all that mattered to me. You just have to learn to not let the comments bother you. Maybe come up with some smart replies to common comments.
 

St. Louis

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Nathalie, thanks for posting that video. I find it both wise and brave.

I started wearing 1930s and 40s styles when I was in high school. Because I lived in my own little world at that time, I was never even aware of any stares or comments. Now that I'm a mature adult I find it a little more challenging to live in the Golden Era. I think I'm just more aware of the world around me. But now more than ever I need to be myself. I just don't have the time, energy, finances, or desire to conform to fads I find uninteresting or unappealing. Megaravintage, I hope very much that you have the experience I had: in living my own life to the best of my ability for all those years, in the end I developed more courage and perhaps a slightly thicker skin. It hasn't been easy, because by nature I am a rather retiring and often shy person, and I really dislike attention from strangers. But I realized many years ago that conformity was just too high a price to pay in exchange for the comfort of being ignored.
 

swanson_eyes

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The boys might be perplexed or unimpressed now, but when you're older real men will appreciate a woman who dresses like a lady and has confidence in her own style.
 

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