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I have friends who spent the first year of their marriage living in the woods in a teepee. That's too atavistic even for me.
:eeek: Sounds like: :hippie: lol lol
I have friends who spent the first year of their marriage living in the woods in a teepee. That's too atavistic even for me.
A teepee works for me!
I think she went a little overboard though. The wife never waxes the door mouldings.
the idea must have been that a woman was not complete until she married and had a man to look after.
Hey what in the world?? That is my blue chevy parked there, who took this picture? Geez, peeping toms everywhere..(sigh).....A teepee works for me!
:eeek: Sounds like: :hippie: lol lol
My grandmother cleaned her closets every week. Took everything out, scrubbed them down, and repacked them. Every single closet. She also cleaned the entire basement, including moving the washer to wash underneath it, once a week.
Sadly, I know people who still believe this- to the point that ANY marriage is better than being single.
Sadly, I know people who still believe this- to the point that ANY marriage is better than being single.
It isn't just marriage, either. I know gals -- young women mostly, but some my age or older -- who can't function if they aren't "in a relationship." They get hooked up with some no-account bum just for the sake of having a "guy" and end up frustrated and upset and hurt when things blow up, and then they just go right on ahead and do it again, grabbing the first apple out of the barrel without bothering to check if it's rotten.
I thought "modern women" were beyond this sort of thinking. Seems not.
It isn't just marriage, either. I know gals -- young women mostly, but some my age or older -- who can't function if they aren't "in a relationship." They get hooked up with some no-account bum just for the sake of having a "guy" and end up frustrated and upset and hurt when things blow up, and then they just go right on ahead and do it again, grabbing the first apple out of the barrel without bothering to check if it's rotten.
I thought "modern women" were beyond this sort of thinking. Seems not.
If this may be taken well as a compliment and only in a very positive intention, many people (me included) are really not mentally and emotionally mature enough, to have any business being in a involved relationship or marriage until the age of about 30 to 35 hits. Now I am NOT picking on anyone younger than that, and if someone is married and having it good is younger than that, so be it, happy for ya. I just think it is not life or death to beat yourself up into having a relationship at such a young age. Good things come to one with experience and maturity. So...my care expressed to anyone on the topic, give life a chance to happen...and it will. Let nature takes it course....no relationship is way, way better than a rotten one.You just described very accurately many females I've met, and one in particular that I was good friends with. We became friendly because we had things in common, but I grew tired of every conversation being about the next guy, and of the hysterical late night phone calls when her new romance went dramatically sour. Barely a week would pass between boyfriends sometimes, and each time, she was convinced that he was "the one." While she dated him, she wouldn't give me much bother, but when he dumped her, I'd have to pick her up again. That's too much for anyone to handle, and one reason why I am choosy of female friends.
It isn't just marriage, either. I know gals -- young women mostly, but some my age or older -- who can't function if they aren't "in a relationship." They get hooked up with some no-account bum just for the sake of having a "guy" and end up frustrated and upset and hurt when things blow up, and then they just go right on ahead and do it again, grabbing the first apple out of the barrel without bothering to check if it's rotten.
I thought "modern women" were beyond this sort of thinking. Seems not.
I know a lot of guys and gals like this. There's nothing wrong with being on the hunt, but there's also nothing wrong with being comfortable with being on your own. I've been single since December and while I'm on the lookout for someone new, it's not gonna make or break me. Eventually it'd be nice, but it's not something to define yourself by. I see many friends of mine with a new S-O on a regular basis. That's just too much gosh-darn work.
There's folks on the other end of the spectrum, though. My best friend hasn't had a girlfriend in a couple years now. He just goes around finding women to 'have a good time with' no strings attached. I don't think too highly of that, either. It just seems disrespectful. He spends a lot of time in bars and strip clubs and people ask how the heck two people who are so different can be best friends, but I digress.
I personally like the idea of a stay at home wife. My mom stayed home until my dad got hurt and she was forced to go back to work. In the world today, it's not feasible, at least I think, unless you're very wealthy. I'm not a rich man, so if I ever have a Mrs, she'll be working, unfortunately.
I've heard more than once that the secret to a successful marriage is having as much away time as you possibly can - and a two income household certainly facilitates that.
I've heard more than once that the secret to a successful marriage is having as much away time as you possibly can - and a two income household certainly facilitates that.
I think the secret to a successful marriage is finding the right partner. Every single person I know wishes they had somebody. Even a guy I know who's been a bachelor for 60+ years has finally found the right girl, and is getting married and couldn't be happier.
True. I do agree with what you state, and yes, finding the right person is very much a part of it.
I think, (my opinion based only by my own history) it is not easy to be single if you want to be married. Now the problem you face, is, who is that right person for me, and how do I find her? (well if you are a Gal, find him)???
It may be more natural for anyone in general, to desire to have someone in their life, to be in love with and perhaps marry. I know I wanted that in my own life and was willing to undergo the normal "make a mistake" ordeal a few times, but eventually I got it right, and WOW it was so very worth it all. I also do find it is hard but better to not be in any relationship then to be in a rotten one.