Paisley
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Going beyond the first date, I've heard of a lot of girls (or women) cleaning their boyfriend's apartment. Say what?
Paisley said:Going beyond the first date, I've heard of a lot of girls (or women) cleaning their boyfriend's apartment. Say what?
Zig2k143 said:I don't know what it is... Maybe I got it from my father because he was that way... But even going out with friends like two couples. I always feel bad if I don't pick up the tab.
Viola said:Yeah, true, Zig, and I could even see offering, but there is something wrong with the guys who think its cute to TELL you to.
-Viola
Say what??Paisley said:Going beyond the first date, I've heard of a lot of girls (or women) cleaning their boyfriend's apartment. Say what?
Zig2k143 said:Lol a guy thinks it cute to tell you to clean his place... Does these guys wear leather vests and hats?
Viola said:No, sadly they're much harder to avoid than that. He was my one girlfriend's boyfriend. And he wore...hair gel and polo shirts.
-Viola
Viola said:Yeah, true, Zig, and I could even see offering, but there is something wrong with the guys who think its cute to TELL you to.
-Viola
Paisley said:I can't even see offering. When my lawn needs mowed, I pay a kid to mow it. When the sink is clogged, I call a plumber. When my house is dirty, I...clean it myself. I'd expect a boyfriend to have the same M.O.
Jovan said:I think more women should ask out men. This old tradition of the guy always having to is keeping great things from happening.
Zig2k143 said:So if your boyfriend offered to change the oil on your car, mow the grass, fix a leaky pipe. You'd be offended or tell him know? He's doing it because he cares for you and he wants to help you out. The same reason why a woman would offer to clean.
BTW I'm not Handy so I'm hoping my lovely can fix that leaky pipe....
be_lovely said:I just have to say that this is the very thing that ended my first marriage. My ex insisted that the house be picture perfect at all times, and if it wasnt, hell was to be paid. Now, I am with Zig, and I want to help him around the house, not because I am being dictated to do so, but because I want to. Out of love, not out of fear. I am the type that once you tell me to do something, I do the opposite. And, speaking of that leaky faucet....... Wheres the darn wrench????
Zig2k143 said:Paisley...
What if he's not doing it for your return help. What if he's just doing it cause he cares for you and wants to do it for you.
Sometimes people do thing for others cause they want too not cause they expect things in return.