HudsonHawk
I'll Lock Up
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What child wouldn't grow angry and overly rebellious if Dad and Mom raised hell and bashed him every time he looked at them wrong...and showed no love but rather mostly a disgust with their very existence..? That is an extreme. Completely different scenario than a balance of correcting but also showing love to a child.
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There is still the problem of perception of what is "correction" and what is "abuse". For example: with the recent issues of an NFL player taking a switch to his kid, there's been much discussion about whether or not a switching is appropriate. I got switchings all the time, I even had to go cut my own. Did I get cuts and welts on my legs that lasted a week? Of course, that was the point. If it stopped hurting an hour later, it was deemed ineffective. I got "preventative spankings". I'd get a spanking every morning before school, not because of what I had done, but because of what I might theorectically do. That said, did I feel loved? Yes I did, very much so, though love didn't stop the bleeding. So where was my upbringing on the scale? The bookends are often easy to identify, but there's an awful lot of middle ground that could go either way.