LizzieMaine said:After my divorce, I think I went thru every approach mentioned here so far -- some stuff I smashed to bits, some stuff I hauled to the dump, some stuff I just tossed in a box in the garage and forgot about, and some stuff I actually packed away in a trunk in my mother's attic. But I wasn't very thorough, and even now, five years later and my ex long since remarried, I still come across bits and pieces I didn't realize I had.
What I do with those depends on how I feel at the moment -- right now I've got a 1928-dated men's suit in a box out in the garage, left over from some long-ago community theatre production we were in together, and I am torn on what to do with it. Part of me wants to just leave it where it is, and
part of me wants to flog it here on the Lounge and make a few bucks off it. I dunno. But I don't feel a lot of emotion about it, one way or another, and I think that's a sign I'm over the worst of it.
I will say though, the smashing-stuff-up thing can be very cathartic. When my mother's second husband walked out on her, she took a sledgehammer to his motorcycle -- and found it a very refreshing, restorative experience.
The Evidence of Old Lovers - Keep or Destroy?
Edward said:I don't keep any of that sort of stuff - while shockingly sentimental and almost OCD in my hoarding tendencies in general, when it comes to stuff that belonged to past relationships, I'm a slash and burn guy. I tend to find old notes and that sort of thing cease to have any value when the relationship does. Notes, letters, photos - the works. Always reashed it, never yet regretted it (only the relationships themselves ).
Miss Crisplock said:You sweet talker, you
Barbigirl said:Of course, I have to agree with that. No point in making the current "the one" in your life unhappy.
Edward said:Ouch!
"the current "the one"" lol
I like that turn of phrase. A very healthy way to look at these things.