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My best friend's father took this literally, though he phrased it slightly differently. I worked for him for several months, and would occasionally hear him mutter "Nothing at all" under his breath shortly after a conversation with a co-worker or customer. I finally asked him about this, and his response was, "I'm just trying to live up to the old adage, 'If you can't say something nice, say nothing at all.'" For him it was a bit of a private joke, but it was also his way of letting go of any negative thoughts, emotions, or energies associated with those interactions. He was a "character" whose thoughts and opinions often didn't align with the world around him, but this little joke/trick seemed to help him get through his day.Wise words indeed, that generation fought wars and witnessed murder on an industrial scale. Yet they do seem to pass on nuggets of sound advice. My grandmother was much the same, I can't remember what she said, word for word, but a precis in paraphrase would be:
Before saying something negative about someone, ask yourself: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? She would then add: If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all...