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No, too perfect for your ego
I get "your house reminds me of my grandma's house" quite frequently.
I kind of like the term 'anachronism', as a I was called by a nice young lady not too long ago. I think it fits rather well.
fftopic: Here is an example to me of a cultural tear down:
I remember at college, holding open a door for a girl. I had arrived there just seconds before she, so I opened the door and stood out of the way to let her enter (I had been taught this by my parents, and enlisted men such as myself do this for officers in the military. I had gone to college right after my enlisted ended in 1989). I can't begin to tell you the tongue lashing I got from this woman.
This is sort of a cultural tear down if you will. I did not mean to offend the woman. I held the door open to her as a sign of respect from the culture I was raised. I did not mean to insinuate, as she thought I had, that because she was a woman she could not open a door for herself. I was totally shocked by this tongue lashing.
I dunno. A Venn Diagram can get complicated:
Keep adding groups and I am going to get really confused or run out of space really fast.
Okay. I can now finally say that I read this entire thread (all 77 pages).
I have come to two conclusions:
1) I don't feel so well and I have a really bad headache. :dizzy:
and
2) I am so lost....
So you are in the Those who are Very Confused group.
Yup! Right in the middle where I belong! lol
The tough part is that as ButteMT61 mentions we cover a wide range of interest levels from mildly interested to total immersion.
I get worried sometimes because as with collecting there can often spring up an element of competition where the extremists and perfectionists come down on those they deem not worthy.
So it becomes a tug between inclusiveness or exclusiveness.
The tough part is that as ButteMT61 mentions we cover a wide range of interest levels from mildly interested to total immersion.
I get worried sometimes because as with collecting there can often spring up an element of competition where the extremists and perfectionists come down on those they deem not worthy.
So it becomes a tug between inclusiveness or exclusiveness.
I am OCD and a perfectionist to the nth degree - the key is not to project that on to others - unless you're in the company of all relatively equally "immersed" folks. I agree on the coming down on others bit and competition. It is like that here and everywhere hobbies/lifestyles are discussed. I can still compliment someone on a "nice bike", "nice jacket", etc. even though they don't meet my standards and/or needs. That's the key piece for me. If what you seek is to be at the top of any given game, and you are looking for that, then expect and ask for criticism. Otherwise, it's best to accept not everyone has the interest, need, money to live a given subject at the top.To be fair, most people are "perfectionists" in the sense that even those who claim not to be will often "come down" on those who they see as being perfectionists....because they have strayed from the path of being an "imperfectionist" (for want of a better word ). So the people who claim not to be perfectionists will criticise those they see as being perfectionists because by being perfectionists they fail to be the "imperfectionist" that the imperfectionist require them to be (otherwise they would not criticise them to begin with).Sorry, got a bit Rumsfeld there.
As far as snickers and such go, it's funny. I've lived my entire life, aside from a misbegotten six months in California thirty years ago, in small New England towns. And I've never once -- not ever -- gotten snickered at for my "vintage ways." Some of the kids around here tell me the local teens consider me kind of a cult figure, which gives me all sorts of ideas for putting that to use.
In fact, the only guff I've ever gotten has been right here among my "peers" on the Lounge -- and only from the "I'm only in it for the hats/suits/etc." crowd, who can't seem to understand why anyone would be interested in anything beyond that. The value of this thread, I think, as long-winded as it is, is that buried amidst all the reptitition is a good explanation of why anyone would pursue an "atavistic" way of life as opposed to defining themselves as a "collector."