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So sorry to hear such awful news, Shangas. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Grandmothers are the pillars that hold families up. My dad often told me that if it were not for his mother (my paternal grandmother whose birthday it is today), we wouldn't have the lives that we have now. She almost literally raised every person in our family, for two generations. My dad, my aunt, her nephews and nieces, and almost every grandchild (my cousins) on my dad's side of the family, in one way, or another.
My mother once said that dad's family history wasn't as interesting as hers. It's not something I personally believe in. Gran ran her own business for 30 years. And she supported a husband, four kids (one of which was my dad), and a housekeeper and her niece with nowhere else to go, using just one shop and a Singer sewing machine (which I have since inherited, and wouldn't sell for anything).
The good news is she is doing well in an assisted living facility very close to my home. We visit frequently and she tells anyone who will listen that my 20 year old son Dylan is, “her medicine”.
My grandmother was the single most influential person in my life. She only made it to 69, but she'd be 103 if she made it to this year. There isn't a day that's gone by in the thirty-three years she's been gone that I don't think of her. The women of that generation came to adulthood in the teeth of the Depression and though it might have scarred them, they were survivors -- and worthy role models for us all.
Last week I interviewed a 97-year-old radio actress/writer who started her career in 1937 earning fifteen dollars a week -- and she plugged and worked and persisted until seven years later, she owned, wrote, and starred in her own five-night-a-week network comedy program. Only after achieving all this did she get around to getting married, and she continued her career for nearly thirty years after that.
Strong, independent women. The Era was full of them.