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Mothers Day

Andykev

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Something to think about with Mother's Day coming very soon.........

* This was sent to me by a friend, it is a good reminder for us all *

After many years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie.

She said, " I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love
to spend some time with you."

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been
a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had
made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

"What's wrong, are you well?" she asked. My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation
is a sign of bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you," I responded.

"Just the two of us?" She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I
would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous.
When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too,
seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door
with her coat on.

She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to
celebrate her last wedding anniversary.
She smiled from a face that was as
radiant as an angel's.

"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were
impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear
about our meeting"

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy.
My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady After we sat down; I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print.

Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there
staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to
have to read the menu when you were small," she said.

Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation -- nothing extraordinary
but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much
that we missed the
movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll
go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice, much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so
suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt
from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached
note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates --
one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU"
and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.
Nothing in life is more important than God and your family.
Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've
had a baby ... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, "Normal" is
history.

Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct ... somebody never
took a three-year-old shopping.

Somebody said being a mother is boring ... somebody never rode in a car
driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.

Somebody said if you're a "good" mother, your child will "turn out good" ...
somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.

Somebody said "good" mothers never raise their voices ... somebody never
came out the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through
the neighbor's kitchen window.
Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother .. somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math.

Somebody said you can't love the fifth child as much as you love the first .. somebody doesn't have five children.

Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing
questions in the books ... somebody never had a child stuff beans up his
nose or in his ears.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery ...
somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of
kindergarten ... or on a plane headed for military "boot camp."

Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back ... somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to
sell cookies.

Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married ...
somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home ...
somebody never had grandchildren.

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her ... somebody isn't a mother.

Pass this along to all the "mothers" in your life. And fathers, too.
 
Ahem, ok now that I got the lump out of my throat I can write to say that message makes very good sense. It also makes a good suggestion. Some live far away fromt heir parents and really do not have the luxury to see them as often as I do my mother. Living through her recent scare with recurring cancer---believe me it is later than you think.

Regards to all,

J

P.S. With your permission, I am going to print that up and give it to her.
 

Michaelson

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Reminds me of something I overheard just yesterday....one lady asked another lady if she prayed. She said 'I have a 13 year old son. You KNOW I pray!' Great post! High regards! Michaelson
 

Sharon

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That was so Sweet!

And Beautiful! Well, Being a romantic, it hit me right in the heart :cry:. I'm so glad I already called my Mom, designed her a Mother's Day Card too. I sure hope my son appreciates me like that when I get old. So what do I do with a 14 Year Old who is at that rebellious stage? Gee, what a change in the last year... All he says is "Yeah, sure" to everything lately. Can't say I feel too good about that on Mother's Day. Do I have to wait till he is 25? Anyone with kids here?

Oh, thought I would say also that I am new here and Hello to everyone! This forum is great and looks so cool too.

Happy Mother's Day!
Sharon
 
Sharon said:
And Beautiful! Well, Being a romantic, it hit me right in the heart :cry:. I'm so glad I already called my Mom, designed her a Mother's Day Card too. I sure hope my son appreciates me like that when I get old. So what do I do with a 14 Year Old who is at that rebellious stage? Gee, what a change in the last year... All he says is "Yeah, sure" to everything lately. Can't say I feel too good about that on Mother's Day. Do I have to wait till he is 25? Anyone with kids here?

No children but it has been my experience that what Mark Twain said was very true:

"When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years."

I think that translates to Mothers as well. ;)

Regards to all,

J
 

Sharon

New in Town
How true

Hi James~

Thanks for responding. Well, that's good news that I only have to wait 7 years instead of 11 for my son to appreciate me again. So in the meantime since you haven't any children...want to borrow a kid? Maybe he'll respond to you better than me. :)

Regards,
Sharon
 

Andykev

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Oh Yeah?

Sharon said:
So what do I do with a 14 Year Old who is at that rebellious stage? Gee, what a change in the last year... All he says is "Yeah, sure" to everything lately. Can't say I feel too good about that on Mother's Day. Do I have to wait till he is 25? Anyone with kids here?

Oh, thought I would say also that I am new here and Hello to everyone! This forum is great and looks so cool too.

Happy Mother's Day!

Sharon

Well, I have a 13 year old, and he has discovered MANY new "things'" lately, is totally disinterested in school, disrespects his mother, thinks money comes from some tree I can't seem to find in the back yard, believes all he needs to know in life is on T.V., sasses when asked to do something, and he gets his exercise by rolling his eyes and whipping his tounge at this alarmed parents!

Sound familiar? I sure hope Mark Twain was correct: " When I was 16, I thought my father was the stupidest man alive. When I turned 21, I was amazed at how much the old man had learned in five years".


(And James, this is widely misquoted, and suspect as to having been said by Clements at all!)

My only suggestion, ask your family doctor how big and how many air holes you have to cut in the box when you ship him off to Outer Mongolia!


Welcome to the LOUNGE! I like your AVITAR. It must be a good likeness of you from what one can tell from your nice posts! :)
 
Andykev said:
Sound familiar? I sure hope Mark Twain was correct: " When I was 16, I thought my father was the stupidest man alive. When I turned 21, I was amazed at how much the old man had learned in five years".
(And James, this is widely misquoted, and suspect as to having been said by Clements at all!)

Ok, then I said it and you can quote me. :p ;) I remember all too well that particular stage. :rolleyes:

Regards to all,

J
 

Sharon

New in Town
I heard it gets worst though...

Hi Andy and James~

Andy, Everything you said is EXACTLY what my son is doing now :cry: Gee, if these kids only knew they all fit a similar pattern then maybe they would realize they really aren't so unique or original. It's such a strange mode they all go into to at this age and I heard it gets worse at 16! No more sweet angel...okay, he wasn't ever an angel but much nicer than this. I, like James, remember being this age and it was rough...not knowing who I really was completely and stuck between being a child and an adult. I never disrespected my parents though I probably did the eye rolling! Ha! But now with the Play Station video games, they leave the world completely behind and only seem to understand the word "FOOD" and "I NEED". Does your kid eat non-stop too :beer:? Well, I hope your wife had a Great Mother's Day!

Thank you Andy for the comment on my Photo. She is Veronica Lake...what a Beauty and sad story of her life too. I do wear my hair just like her and have for the longest time so I thought she was appropriate for me. Hope I can offer a great link too...they are the actresses from the Golden Era and I thought this site was so informative too! http://www.geocities.com/Hollywood/Hills/2440/

Thanks for your posts and the welcome :clap !

Sharon
 

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