Features on Men

[MissQueenie]

Maybe there's hope for me yet,..........
Thanks,MissQueenie, it's nice to know us do-it-yourselfers are appreciated.:cheers1:

Major, I have great respect for creativity in all its forms, but there's something wonderful about being able to take care of things yourself. Self-reliance is so underrated.

Keep up the good work!

Lauren -- I knew you'd agree! Where have all the old-fashioned boys gone? I know a couple of deserving old fashioned girls who could use a fella!

~ Q.

 

[PADDY]

Queenie, you're just a breath of fresh air.

Just loved your piece, thankyou so much.

 

[Quigley Brown]

I really expect a man my age (37) to have bought not only a car, but a house. But when I was 19, my boyfriend didn't have a car. It's all about what stage of life you're in.

It really make me sad that a woman would think this way.

 

[Miss Neecerie]

It really make me sad that a woman would think this way.

See my thought on this...is that why in all honesty should I be able to expect -him- to afford a house on his salary when I can't on mine.....

If my mid-range salary is not enough on it's own....then why would his mid range salary manage to buy things mine can't??

This leaves me trying to find Donald Trump types, a task I would find extremely distasteful at best.

So send me your also stuggling guys...its really not an issue at all with me...gainfully employed in something that makes you moderately happy is my requirement.

 

[Paisley]

It really make me sad that a woman would think this way.

First, please understand that housing prices are quite a bit lower in Colorado than in California. With that said, though, I bought my house ten years ago. During that time, I've been through quite a few layoffs, I sometimes worked two jobs to scrape together the mortgage payments, never took a dime from my friends or family--and I've done almost all the repairs and fix-ups myself(painting inside & out, flower gardens, put up a fence, unclogging the drains, etc.). Besides, if a guy has been working for 15 or 20 years, shouldn't he have something to show for it?

 

[CWetherby]

Ok. How about a little red head guy with glasses, wears a hat often, may be a tab bit over weight, has nice blue eyes, cute nose. Treats the ladies like queens. Enjoys fine dining, and good theater. Has an airplane, and likes to fly to fun destinations. Is a good listener. Opens car doors, can make a decision, and is great with money. Owns his own house, has a golden retriever doggie, keeps his house and car clean, and never misses work at his good job. He's not too tall, onlly 5'-6"..but he has a good college educaton and can discuss anything with a bit of intelligence.
Sound good?

You mentioned keeping your house and car clean, but what about your Golden Retriever? Hmm? No one likes a smelly dog!

 

[CWetherby]

That depends greatly on where you live.

London...not having a car by no means disqualifies one from the pool of datable man...

Los Angeles, it might..granted for me it still wouldnt...I dated someone in LA for 9 months who didnt have a car or a driving license...

see...men think we worry about these things way more then we do....or at least the type of women you -should- as intelligent men want....dont place all the emphasis on these things...

Amen!!! I once dated a guy who said, (and I am not making this up), upon seeing a fancy black porsche with a pretty blond in the passenger seat, "If I had a car like that, I could have a girl like that." The really sad thing was that he was driving a decent Honda with ME in the passenger seat (not blond, but very decent )!!!

 

[Lauren]

Ew! What a scum! But it's so sad some guys think like that.

 

[mysterygal]

ouch...hopefully that was just one of those 'foot in the mouth' moments! unfortunately what he said does ring somewhat true, there's a whole bunch of shallow people out there that are pretty much interested in 'the stuff'

 

[scotrace]

Mystery Solved

The next time one of my single male friends bemoans the dearth of "the good ones," I will send him here. It's ovbious that the Fedora Lounge is where they all went.

You ladies are tops. Mature, elegant, smart, sensible, beautiful and well-dressed to boot.
I know there are many, many of the gentlemen here (and not the sort of chaps who post about "chicks with big noses") who are sighing to themselves... "if only I were single!"

A toast! To the amazing ladies of Fedora Lounge! :cheers1:

 

[mysterygal]

there is someone here who is single.....queenie....hmmm....maybe we can hook her up with a nice young chap

 

[Miss Neecerie]

there is someone here who is single.....queenie....hmmm....maybe we can hook her up with a nice young chap

hmmmm her Fred might not approve

 

[mysterygal]

uh oh, so she does have a boyfriend.....sorry Fred

 

[Lauren]

Haha! Yeah, and they're the cutest couple ever
But me and Neecerie are open jk

 

[mysterygal]

well, if you can find a guy like that, congradulations!:cheers1:

 

[MissQueenie]

hmmmm her Fred might not approve

Hee hee, he most assuredly would not approve. I was referring to my beautiful and very single friends.

Lauren, I really hope we're not one of those cavity-inducing couples that make people queasy. That would be sad!

 

[ITG]

I'm assuming the guy I marry will see the value in me being a housewife, so he probably would make enough to support a family and wife (but I, of course, would still want to do something in my spare time to help out, like sell on Ebay, get a part time job, do seamstress work, etc.. I guess it matters most to be around all the tiem when you have little kids to raise.)

I'm in total agreement there with ya there! Being in schools, I've seen a difference in the kids who have parents who are involved and are fortunate enough to stay home versus the ones who work and aren't as aware of what's going on with their child at school. I want to be one of the parents who is involved and there for my child(ren). Being a mom is a full time job. I can't imagine trying to raise a child with a full time job. I know many women do it, but how I don't know. The ones who can do it successfully are indeed amazing.

personally, I'd never marry a doctor or a lawyer -- I'd rather be able to spend time with my husband than spend his salary.

Right on! Quality is more important than quantity.

on the superficial side, going out with your man in a cool car is awesome ( my husband has a 65' stingray corvette, and if we're going out,

Sweet, I am an offspring of a Corvette loving dad. My favorite one that he had was a white 66 convertible Stingray. That car was fun to go joyriding in. He'd never let me drive it and he sold it when I went off to college.

 

[SwingCat123]

Sweet, I am an offspring of a Corvette loving dad. My favorite one that he had was a white 66 convertible Stingray. That car was fun to go joyriding in. He'd never let me drive it and he sold it when I went off to college.

My grandfather had/still has a mint cherry red MG-B and while I got to look at it from a distance the second my corvette-driving boyfriend saw he got to drive us around the block. Oh, how I drooled over it and still dream of owning it. Its one thing for the guy to have the cool car, but as a product of the femenist brain-washing I really want the cool car for myself. He can drive it once in a while though

 

[geo]

Does he feel as comfortable in jeans and hiking boots as he does in a vintage suit with his special fedora. And does he let me try on THE leather jacket upon occasion.
- Takes the time to learn all the special spots where I love to be kissed. Not always as a prelude to passion, but just because it makes us both smile.
- Knows my body as well as his own and expects the same fascination from me.
- Is willing to play chase and build snowmen, make snow angels and have a snowball fight.
- Loves animals and shares in their care and training. Isn't intimidated by Great Danes.<g>
- Has the knowledge and willingness to shop with me to find things that compliment my ever-changing sense of style and to make suggestions that show of his interest and pride in my appearance.
- Willing to sit up with me at night with a sick child, offering support, guidance and TLC to both of us.
- Knows how to cook and delights in trying new dishes or new restaurants together.
- Appreciates spontaneity and is aware that life is too fleeting to spend it constantly working, worrying about finances or doing chores. Reminds me of the same to protect me from my OCD-ishness.
- Cares for his body, is always in search of knowledge to stimulate his mind and nurtures his soul.
- Knows how to help buffer the impacts of life and yet respects my ability to handle crises. And allows me to do the same for him when needed.
- Is easily amused on a daily basis.
- Feels secure enough to be strong and protective and revels in my soft feminity.

Quoting Bill Murray: Hmm, let's see: me, me, me, me, me, and me.

Reminds me of that scene in "The Groundhog Day", when Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell are having breakfast at a restaurant and Andie MacDowell describes the perfect man, although playing a music instrument and loves his mother are missing from the list.

 

[CWetherby]

- Knows how to cook and delights in trying new dishes or new restaurants together.

I liked your list, but in my opinion, knowing how to cook is ok. But even more important than that would be someone who appreciates MY cooking. I've got that maternal, nurturing, "Here, eat this, you'll feel better" thing going on and nothing is more deflating than preparing some fabulous meal and it being pushed around on the plate or eaten with a grimace!! I guess this is so important because I like to cook....