Does vintage clothing attract a rude/violent response?

[sheeplady]

It's funny, I have never met a woman (or a man) who enjoys being groped by strangers, but a lot of men who thinks one should get flattered if it happens to you. Flattered because someone doesn't have a clue about how you interact with other people? I don't think so.

I've also encountered this attitude. It's disgusting. I wonder if these men are touchers themselves or wish they were? I have also met one woman who thought this type of behavior was flirting- the same as touching your sleeve or arm. No, it's not the same and it is not flirting.

I don't want to cast all men as sexual predators and perverts, because they are not. Most men are disgusted by this behavior. In one experience, I had two gentlemen physically remove the offender at the time and then push for his permanent removal from the environment, without further involving me. To put it simply, they advocated for me. I (and the other ladies in that environment) were very thankful for what they did. True gentlemen.

 

[Rats Riley]

I notice this all the time. I see it happen to people, let me touch your shirt, let me feel this, or that. It drives me nuts. I'm one of those people who has a 'bubble' stay out of it. People always want to touch my hair. They figure it's hair gel and my hair is 'hard as a rock'. I hate people always wanting to touch my hair lol



M'waukee has always had a good vintage influence. I am from there, as is 4 generations before me. My dad was a greaser in the 70's, as were many guys, when most think 50's when they hear greaser.

I figured you'd know what I'm talking about. My mom still lives there and I even get back there once in a great while. 27th Street has seriously changed. As has most of the South side. Most of the places we used to run around just aren't there anymore.

 

[AtomicEraTom]

Oh you're from the South Side? Despite my name ending in "ski" I wasn't from the south side. My Great-Grandpa grew up on Clarke St. My Grandpa on 3rd and Reservoir, my dad on 60th and Hampton, and I on 52nd between Bluemound and Wisconsin. So your ma is on 27th and what?

I figured you'd know what I'm talking about. My mom still lives there and I even get back there once in a great while. 27th Street has seriously changed. As has most of the South side. Most of the places we used to run around just aren't there anymore.

 

[C-dot]

I hate people always wanting to touch my hair lol

ME TOO! Its real, now shove off! Most people will stop if you discreetly back away, but some either don't notice or don't care, at which point I tell them "please don't touch me..."

In one experience, I had two gentlemen physically remove the offender at the time and then push for his permanent removal from the environment, without further involving me. To put it simply, they advocated for me. I (and the other ladies in that environment) were very thankful for what they did. True gentlemen.

That is gentlemanly. I find most young men today will make fools of themselves: Standing up for your girl does not mean throwing punches and starting a public brawl.

 

[AtomicEraTom]

I feel way worse when I see it happen to women. Your hair takes a lot more work than mine. I carry a comb and can just comb it back into place with fairly easily. Better me than you!

ME TOO! Its real, now shove off! Most people will stop if you discreetly back away, but some either don't notice or don't care, at which point I tell them "please don't touch me..."

 

[Puzzicato]

ME TOO! Its real, now shove off! Most people will stop if you discreetly back away, but some either don't notice or don't care, at which point I tell them "please don't touch me..."

No offence to you (because you are adorable) but the thought of walking up to you and touching your hair gives me the heebies. Touching a stranger's hair? Ick!

 

[VintageConnoisseur]

Being in highschool in Casa Grande, the suburbia to Phoenix, you definitely get rude remarks, especially when in a suit. The only people in the entire TOWN to wear suits are the few lawyers (who are usually their offices anyways, so they aren't out and about) or Jehovah Witnesses. Being related to a Jehovah Witness, and one who is friendly with the Jehovah Witness kids who go to my school, you attract even more violence. When I was going to the main highschool campus in my town, I surrounded myself with metalhead kids, who had the stereotypical long hair and muscles. I've actually never once been in a fist fight in my life, I prefer to destroy the opponent with words, it's much more effective. But it is true that other ethnicities appreciate suits and such more than others. I always believed this was true because as those who appreciate vintage are a minority among the masses, so are other ethnicities.

P.S. The rockabilly scene in Arizona isn't what you think it is. The "rockabilly" of Arizona wears creeper sneakers, and make the cuffs on their factory faded jeans about 7 inches too large. (literally, they cuff their pants sometimes halfway up to their knees. It's truly depressing actually, especially when people who aren't from here consider it a huge rockabilly scene

 

[Travis Lee Johnston]

Yeah, but in all fairness there's like five months out of the year it's comfortable to wear a suit here. Old ladies love me though.

 

[C-dot]

No offence to you (because you are adorable) but the thought of walking up to you and touching your hair gives me the heebies. Touching a stranger's hair? Ick!

It's like kissing Bob Barker... We all like him, but there are limits.

(PS. Thanks )

P.S. The rockabilly scene in Arizona isn't what you think it is. The "rockabilly" of Arizona wears creeper sneakers, and make the cuffs on their factory faded jeans about 7 inches too large. (literally, they cuff their pants sometimes halfway up to their knees. It's truly depressing actually, especially when people who aren't from here consider it a huge rockabilly scene

That is totally depressing actually. It's probably something like Niagara Falls. People I know who haven't been there get so excited to see it, and while the Falls are impressive, it's really just a tourist town... And a campy one at that.

Yeah, but in all fairness there's like five months out of the year it's comfortable to wear a suit here. Old ladies love me though.

I get 'ya. There's about 5 minutes out of the year here when its comfortable to wear a day dress.

 

[Travis Lee Johnston]

When I say suit I mean like Wool or something heavy. I wouldn't mind linen though. I have a linen vest I wear year round, but that's it.

 

[_Nightwing]

I have a linen vest I wear year round, but that's it.

I just found a great vest at Goodwill, so l'll ask you: do you ever get any rude or violent reactions to it? I've worn mine out once so far, to a buffet yesterday evening, and it definitely got a lot of attention. It's not linen, it's gray wool, and I couldn't hear any of the comments but they were definitely happening. Some seemed positive or at least neutral, but some others I wonder about. The rest of the outfit was black cotton casual trousers, white shirt and a tie, for context and comparison to yourself.

 

[Travis Lee Johnston]

I got a thick skin so I can handle all the potty comments I get. Most people are busy looking at all my bold colorful tattoos instead. I'm just a sight to see overall I suppose. Some people are really comfortable to approach me and talk, while others say I'm intimidating/scary. I've had girls tell me they were kinda scared of me and my old car. That I was a relic from another time, haha.

I expect the haters to pipe up when I'm doing my thing, they always do. But I've sung in front of over 300 people before so I'm not scared of too much and peoples comments seldom bug me or stick with me.

 

[Travis Lee Johnston]

Goodwill has jackpots. I found a pair of brand new grey wool trousers there for 6$ one time. They retailed for 80$ after some price checking online.

 

[Gracie Lee]

I <3 Goodwill... 40s vintage ladies camel hair skirt suit, in a rather timeless shade of tan, in my size, $7. It may have made my year

 

[_Nightwing]

I got a thick skin so I can handle all the potty comments I get. Most people are busy looking at all my bold colorful tattoos instead. I'm just a sight to see overall I suppose. Some people are really comfortable to approach me and talk, while others say I'm intimidating/scary. I've had girls tell me they were kinda scared of me and my old car. That I was a relic from another time, haha.

I expect the haters to pipe up when I'm doing my thing, they always do. But I've sung in front of over 300 people before so I'm not scared of too much and peoples comments seldom bug me or stick with me.

Haha, love it. The relic comment would really make me laugh, and the girls approaching you to tell you they were scared of you, well hey you're still drawing them in. I think I also come off as a sight to see. You've got the tattoos and the car. I've got long hair and a lot of scars. Here's to thick skins.

Goodwill has jackpots. I found a pair of brand new grey wool trousers there for 6$ one time. They retailed for 80$ after some price checking online.

I <3 Goodwill... 40s vintage ladies camel hair skirt suit, in a rather timeless shade of tan, in my size, $7. It may have made my year

I hope both of you are posting pics of all this cool stuff in the Goodwill finds thread, or else... I'm not going to do anything because I'm just a name on the internet. You've been warned. :| *stern face*

 

[AtomicEraTom]

I love the Goodwill. They know me there by name. I stop in at least once a week and usually walk out with dress shirts, vinyls, and whatever else catches my eye!

I <3 Goodwill... 40s vintage ladies camel hair skirt suit, in a rather timeless shade of tan, in my size, $7. It may have made my year

 

[rue]

Today I was wearing this dress and white keds with hair and make-up done as usual and after cleaning and making dinner I went on a walk this evening with the family and we stopped to get ice-cream at our local neighborhood place. As I was standing outside with the dog waiting for the husband and daughter to bring out my order, I heard two women giggling and heard one say to the other "I guess we should have dressed up" and I turned around to see two extremely slovenly dressed women. Then another woman sitting with her family loudly wispered to her husband "look at how that woman is dressed" and she was dressed much the same way as the other two. Funny her daughter decided to strike up a conversation with me about the dog, so she had to sit and just smile lol

Anyway, it kind of bugged me, because I thought I looked pretty dressed down and it is what I cleaned in all day, but I guess I'm more noticeable than I thought here in 'smallsville' [huh]

 

[Lily Powers]

^^There is just no need to open one's mouth for the sole purpose of putting down someone else for what they're wearing. We all know it's a worthless, passive aggressive act in an effort to feel better about themselves. They don't stand out in a crowd, and by golly, they will see to it that no one else will either. Still, it's hurtful.

I work for the gov't and we're mandated to take furlough days off without pay because of budget cuts. One Monday I was dressed in vintage: yellow peep toe pumps, a black and white dress and a blue cropped cardigan. Sun was out, it was a nice day, I had a bit of a spring in my step... and I walked past two women in dressed-down office wear and one loudly says, "THAT's who they should furlough!" Huh? What did I do? My clothes weren't expensive, I'm polite to people, I don't put on airs... why did they say that? They didn't know me, or what I do (and I guarantee you, there's no way they would or could do my job). I went to my office and darn if it didn't bug me for a couple of hours. So, bottom line, I know how you feel!

 

[rue]

Thank you Lily Your outfit sounds absolutely darling and I'm sorry someone took the spring out of your step.

I'm just glad I decided not to wear my blue straw hat on the walk lol

 

[Lily Powers]

Thank you Lily Your outfit sounds absolutely darling and I'm sorry someone took the spring out of your step.

I'm just glad I decided not to wear my blue straw hat on the walk lol

Oh lordy, if that blue straw bonnet had any floral decoration, there could have been bloodshed!