Tomasso said:
Richard Warren said:Mi dispiace ma there are indeed rules (rigidly enforced conventions) as to what should be worn with what, and when. If you fail to adhere to them while in the company of those who know them, you are likely to suffer for it.
There are places and times at which blue suits may be worn, at which only black shoes are appropriate. There are people who will consider you gauche if you ever wear brown shoes with a blue suit (although there are fewer of them now than there once were, and apparently few of them live in Italy). If you don't care, that's fine for you, unless one of those people happens to be your boss, a client or customer, a member of a club you hope to be invited join, or your prospective father-in-law.
lol You've gotta get out of that dark room; and quit watching those old newsreels.Richard Warren said:Mi dispiace ma there are indeed rules (rigidly enforced conventions) as to what should be worn with what, and when.
It was just a wild guess....Really.[huh]Richard Warren said:you seem to know all about me.
Richard Warren said:Authoritarian? Do you know what the word means?
Richard Warren said:… (rigidly enforced conventions) as to what should be worn with what, and when. …
undertaker said:I read somewhere in a trade journal awhile back that men should not wear brown shoes at all because "the public does not trust men who wear brown shoes"[huh] . I would like to know where they got the information.
Baron Kurtz said:Sure, no doubt as well as or better than you. One with an authoritarian personality would slavishly follow …
But the point I was making is that such conventions, and the groups of people who would impose them, have more than the slightest whiff of authoritarianism, and certainly absurdity. A subtle distinction and one which I failed to edit when submitting my earlier post.
I made no suggestion that you were one of either of these types of people, and I understand of course, that there are some silly clubs out there with rigid dress conventions. But we're talking about every day life. It would be a rather foolish person who took the rules of his club to be "correct" or a general "rule", and judged people accordingly. And an even more foolish person who would listen to such drivel. (Again I don't accuse you here. I shouldn't have to clarify this, but there you go. People will choose to take offense for dramatic effect.) For the record, I am often not convinced by brown with grey or blue. But the right brown with the right grey or blue can look fantastic. I have blue suits that I would never wear any of my brown shoes with, because the colours do not work well together. But had I the right shade of brown shoe, the suits would look fantastic when matched with them.
And again, to put this to rest and get back to the purpose of the thread. Look at the list that was come up with. Largely peripheral stuff that doesn't matter a jot if one has a badly fitting suit and/or no sense of colour co-ordination, proportion and a reasonably accurate self image. (i.e. not one of these people who think that everything they do looks good; people who just can't see the difference between a good and bad ensemble, if they are in it. If they are in it, it must be good. There are a surprising number of these people around.)
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Nick D said:And I've heard you should never trust a man in a bowtie [huh] I don't know where these things come from, either.
Wearing a dark blue suit and bowtie today, but no brown shoes, black with light gray canvas spats. Does that make me more or less trustworthy?
Richard Warren said:I do not mean this personally, but I have a business associate who regularly makes disparaging comments about people wearing bow ties. You might say he is a closed minded bigot, and you would probably be right. But he is not alone. (I am not saying there is a rule against wearing bow ties. I have simply observed a prejudice against them.)
I have also seen a young man mocked to his face for wearing brown shoes. Not something I would do or approve of, but there it is. (Actually, I think the mocker sort of had good intentions, to discourage a repeat performance).
Nick D said:And I've heard you should never trust a man in a bowtie [huh]
JimWagner said:Or tweedy academics. Or overly fussy men.
undertaker said:Oh dear! I wear one almost every day. Wearing the bowtie has never seemed to cast a shadow of doubt over my trustworthiness, however I did have a fellow minster ban me from his pulpit because I wore a bowtie.
Regards,
J.S.
Richard Warren said:The decline of the bow tie over the last several decades is unfortunate. Perhaps it has something to do with young men being taught to wear long ties in the military? Maybe people are jealous and feel inadequate because they cannot tie them. I could see how bow ties could represent an element of elitism. I do not see how trustworthiness comes into play (unless people just distrust the unfamiliar), or theology.
Edward said:Hey! I resemble that remark!
JimWagner said:Can't say I care for bow ties myself. I suspect that my aversion to them comes from growing up in the 50's and seeing them associated with let's say less assertive men. A bow tie and a crew cut were the essence of bottom rung office workers, the kind with almost no chance of advancement. Weak. Or gas station attendants. Or tweedy academics. Or overly fussy men. Or children.
But that was then.
JimWagner said:Can't say I care for bow ties myself. I suspect that my aversion to them comes from growing up in the 50's and seeing them associated with let's say less assertive men. A bow tie and a crew cut were the essence of bottom rung office workers, the kind with almost no chance of advancement. Weak. Or gas station attendants. Or tweedy academics. Or overly fussy men. Or children.
But that was then.