LizzieMaine
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I know grown up, adult-acting single people. These are NOT grown up, adult-acting single people. These are people that cannot get their act together.
I think of this as "You're Not The Boss Of Me Syndrome," the idea that all authority is something to be denied and avoided at all times, the way a seven year old pitches a fit and screams "YOU'RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME!" It's a pretended independence, but not *actual* independence.
It's also a denial of reality. There is no one who can truly say that No One Is The Boss Of Them, however much some people might want to claim so. If it's not an actual boss in a job, it's something else that's a boss of them -- peer pressure, addictions, habits, philosophies, whatever.
I think the real mark of adulthood is recognizing that there's always going to be a Boss Of You, somewhere, and in some form, and in coming to terms with that is a sign of actually being grown up.