'Whipped' by Our Wives?

[Bourbon Guy]

Marc, I am sure I have posted this on another thread on another forum, but as a general rule the guy who accuses you of being "whipped" is probably sleeping alone tonight.

 

[blacklagoon]

Funnily enough,my dad has just told me that he is planning on buying a powerful air rifle soon,and under no circumstances must my mum know,or she won't let him buy it.

 

[Bourbon Guy]

Wasn't there a line in "Hud," something about the price we pay for having it where we can nudge it during the night?

 

[topango]

mistake

I can't comment on this because I'm not married. But when people ask me if I'm married, I reply; "No, I'm still happy."

regarding that: Try not to make the same mistake once

 

[Martinis at 8]

Nope, that's not us. We pretty much purchase whatever we want with regards to clothing. Big ticket items (like cars) we will usually talk about, but we are specifically into NOT giving each other any flak about most stuff, so things work out pretty well.

 

[Darhling]

Well, I am single now, but I always LOVED modelling new things for my respective other! I never hid them in the back of the closet I never did buy anything with joint money though.

From the whipped men I know, I can tell being whipped by the other half is a choice, subconcious or not.. but I can only speak for them.

 

[HoosierDaddy]

From the whipped men I know, I can tell being whipped by the other half is a choice, subconcious or not..

AB SO LUTE LY.....

HD

 

[Paisley]

Isn't the whip-ee probably fooling the whip-er?

 

[deco_darling]

I usually get the "I told you so". I spend so much I get my boyfriend rolling his eyes at me. I don't hide it and its hard to when we share an account and live together. He's not the scolding type! But, we're usually in trouble when it comes to money due to my over spending. This is a unique topic, due to the fact I'm being very careful this month. We both need to get out more and me spending so much causes us not to.

 

[WildCelt]

Nope, that's not us. We pretty much purchase whatever we want with regards to clothing. Big ticket items (like cars) we will usually talk about, but we are specifically into NOT giving each other any flak about most stuff, so things work out pretty well.

We're similar, but our big ticket items include most things over $10. That's what happens when you have a new baby and the only income is the GI Bill money the University doesn't take. All our accounts are joint accounts, too, and we discuss purchases we make before we do so. I'm a student teacher, so I'm trying to build a professional wardrobe (which my wife understands) and my wife has a need to feel pretty (which I understand). It all works out.

 

[Martinis at 8]

We're similar, but our big ticket items include most things over $10. That's what happens when you have a new baby and the only income is the GI Bill money the University doesn't take. All our accounts are joint accounts, too, and we discuss purchases we make before we do so. I'm a student teacher, so I'm trying to build a professional wardrobe (which my wife understands) and my wife has a need to feel pretty (which I understand). It all works out.

I'm at the other end of the time spectrum from you. That also makes a difference. I already used my GI Bill benefits - decades ago. Our son is grown and gone (an Army officer now), both wife's and my professions are already built/established. Yes, it does all work out when one sticks with the program. Best of luck on your journey. When you look back, you will say it was worth it

 

[Story]

Ooo, yes please! Bad boy spends too much money!

bk

That's gonna leave a mark.

I'd suggest sticking to handcuffs. Or clothesline.

Isn't the whip-ee probably fooling the whip-er?

Which is probably technically known as 'topping from the bottom'.

 

[Darhling]

Ooo, yes please! Bad boy spends too much money!

bk

That's gonna leave a mark.

I'd suggest sticking to handcuffs. Or clothesline.

lol lol lol lol lol lol This has created a very amusing mental image.

 

[hepkitten]

My husband and I decided from the get-go that we have a joint household bank account, and we have separate individual accounts. We then put half of whatever we make into the house account to pay bills, etc. and the other half we spend any which way we want. It makes us both happy and responsible, since we don't have to hide anything from each other!

RD

We have a similar arrangement. When a new motorcycle appears in the shed, or six boxes containing bicycle parts arrive in one week, I'm happy that he's happy. Ditto him when I come home from the bookstore with a dozen new books to add to my already towering stack.

My boyfriend gets constant remarks from his male coworkers about how lucky he is that I "let" him buy and ride motorcycles; apparently several of them would like to, but claim their wives won't let them. My bf's theory is that they use being "whipped" as an excuse not to get out there on the road.

 

[Decodence]

Wife gives me a hard time about my purchases, but when she's racking up $4k/mo on the Amex, and I support the entire household, she can STFU.

 

[SamMarlowPI]

i see motorcycles for sale on ebaymotors all the time with "rode it home from the dealership and the fiance/wife told me i couldn't have it..."

the upside is a cheap bike...

 

[Darhling]

i see motorcycles for sale on ebay motors all the time with "rode it home from the dealership and the fiance/wife told me i couldn't have it..."

the upside is a cheap bike...

Hahahhaaa.. I never see shoe collections for sale with such a tagline

 

[NewVintage]

dont have a wife but my gf skolds me for spending money on clothes when i should be focused on gas for the car and food!!!

 

[Story]

Hahahhaaa.. I never see shoe collections for sale with such a tagline

No sane man would even attempt such a reversal of gravity. lol
http://www.bild.de/BILD/news/bild-e...news/2009/04/03/fergie-has-a-shoe-fetish.html

 

[PADDY]

Gentlemen...?

Does this not beg the question regarding your initial choice in a partner 'might be' flawed? and therefore the onus of choice is on 'you?'

So either you like/acknowledge that 'you' are a submissive who likes/needs to be told what to do and feel comfortable that your 'female' partner is the dominant/masterful person in your relationship (ie: you feel it is acceptable to be verbally/emotionally whipped and be submissive to that person...as in..."yes dear, of course dear, whatever 'you' say dear")...

Or, you have actually 'conditioned/trained' your partner inadvertantly by continually allowing her to 'wear the pants' and 'thrash that whip' (if you let people do something enough times then they quite rightly think it's okay by 'you.')

Or...you have made a judgement error in choosing your partner, she wasn't the person you thought she was...etc

Either way...advice is: sit down with your partner and talk your concerns through, as it doesn't sound healthy (Signing out..Dr Ruth!)